Is it rude or too much to expect when you send a card AND money and then never get any acknowledgement back? I have been sending for years to my 2 cousins (20-22 year olds) money/gifts, etc. and they never send any thanks back. should i just stop sending them anything? I feel like why should i even bother if they are not going to even acknowledge it! :(
2007-12-31 11:16:23 · 11 answers · asked by SilverSky 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
get this - they even used to send me long lists on what they wanted and one time karen (one of the cousins) wrote on the list: i want a CD player (and a GOOD one - not one that skips)! so that might give you an idea of what kind of relatives i'm dealing with! :)
2007-12-31 11:27:04 · update #1
i'm not that much older than them but i definitely send thank you emails or notes. i don't think you can just blame it on this generation that they have no etiquette.
2007-12-31 12:28:01 · update #2
that person - travel or whatever you gave a really rude response ! first you say i shouldn't post this and then you say i shouldn't give them anything. you make absolutely no sense! Excuse me for trying to be a nice person and send them something but then look to advice on this. yeesh....you're so rude.
2007-12-31 17:05:20 · update #3
It's rude of them not to acknowledge your gifts. They are too old to get away with not communicating their thanks to you on their own. Whenever I get a card or gift in the mail, I at LEAST email a thank you, if not a phone call to say thank you. They are old enough to where you are right to expect a thank you of some sort. Have you mentioned it to their mom/dad? Maybe they never learned proper etiquette in this area...
2007-12-31 11:23:50 · answer #1 · answered by Rosie25 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ma acknowledging others does not diminish your place at the table Your words ,thoughts and images are as vivid as any other poem I have read you are a gem that belongs in this crown
2016-04-02 05:15:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Silver, please don't be offended but you aren't acting very much like an intelligent adult, both in your posting this and sending those ingrates ANYTHING. Please think it over and realize that this is truly something you do not need to do, and perhaps give money to a charity for children or some other worthy cause.
2007-12-31 14:26:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
I wouldn't send their grown asses diddly but my love.
"And a GOOD ONE" would have decided that in my mind.
2007-12-31 14:08:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very important point of reference here. If you continue to send gifts to someone who gives no thought to acknowledging them, you are at fault. Stop. We do not find it acceptable to send gifts to those who are ungrateful and have slashed our gift giving lists over the years. Whether it is family or not. It is rude not to send a thank you or any acknowlegement whatsoever when a gift is given. Your heart is in the right place, theirs is not.
2007-12-31 12:36:00 · answer #5 · answered by dawnb 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is there any way you can send an anonymously typed letter to the house with a copy of the etiquette of sending thank you cards for gifts received( which your librarian can help you find and print out)?........It is a little bit of a job but what it will accomplish is this........,you will send gifts to them one more time and after you know you have sent the above letter and they do not send a thank you note, then guess what!...that's right....no more gifts.....
2007-12-31 12:20:49 · answer #6 · answered by mj 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Would you be comfortable talking with their parents? (You could perhaps simply ask if the gift was received/enjoyed, as you had not heard anything.) If they were raised to send a thank you then their parents might be surprised to learn that none was sent, and may wish to remind their adult children about expressing thanks.
2007-12-31 11:57:24 · answer #7 · answered by anonymous 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It is rude but I'm not surprised by their behavior. Many teens and young adults today do not know rules of etiquette. It's up to you to decide if you want to stop sending them something. Ask yourself, what was your purpose in giving in the first place and is that purpose still worth it.
2007-12-31 11:51:23 · answer #8 · answered by Peggy 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I GUARANTEE if you stop sending gifts and money to hese losers you will hear from them PRONTO! But stick to your guns and do NOT send them any more money, just cards. They'll get the message. Let them stew in their own ungrateful juices.
2007-12-31 11:27:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely stop sending them stuff, if they don't acknowledge your gifts, then it should stop. You could always do the old trick, send them a card with a note to enjoy the money you've enclosed, only don't put any money in...bet they call then!
2007-12-31 11:25:42 · answer #10 · answered by Sophiesmama 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
yep. i say you do it. do they send you anything>? no the least they can do is send you a card or something.
2007-12-31 11:24:04 · answer #11 · answered by Fendora 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋