My moms anger issues?

Question

every day my mom starts arguments with my dad by snapping at him when he walks into a room.she always yells at me for no reason or for a made up reason she is drunk every day i think she is bi-poler or something and she wont go see anybody what should i do

Answer 1

Find a Al anon (AA for kids...) it will help you understand why your mom in an Alcoholic...

Answer 2

It's called alcoholism... and the majority of alcoholics have underlying mental illness problems. They drink to "escape" from their reality, when in fact, the drinking only makes matters worse.

Alcohol is a depressant, so most alcoholics are not the most pleasant personalities in the world.

I'm a recovering alcoholic, and i come from a family of many drinkers. I look back and wonder "WHY?" so many times... but the best i can do is move forward.

Your mother's disposition and her drinking have affected you deeply, i see. You might find Alateen or Alanon very supportive. I have listed the online website for Alateen below... you can contact your local Alcoholics Anonymous chapter to find out where you can go to an Alanon or Alateen meeting in your community. These are wonderful support groups for people whose lives have been affected by someone who drinks... and you will be surprised to "see" how many people are living similar lives as you.
hugs.

Answer 3

If she is drunk everyday, her problem isn't bipolar, it's alcoholism.

I'm so sorry you're in this situation. It's tough when parent's are out of control.

How old are you? If still in school, please talk to the school nurse or guidance counselor. That's what they're there for!

Answer 4

Talk to your guidance councilor at school or your family doctor. Your family needs intervention and both these people can arrange for your family to get the help they need. It's not just your mother that needs help, the whole family needs help to cope with your mother.

Answer 5

Shes an alcoholic, not mentally ill, her behavior is affected by her drinking. Try Al anon, its for the families of alcoholics and they can give you some support as they have all been through the same thing.
Members of families of alcoholics have a tough row to hoe as they are always made to feel guilty and at fault for the drinking. You need to know how to deal with that and the other charming tricks alkys use to get their way.
Good Luck.

Answer 6

Your mom is mad. Shes not mad at you and shes not mad at your dad, but that doesnt help either of you.

When people drink like that it is because they are trying to numb a deep hurt - a hurt that Ajax wont wash off. Shes lashing out at you and your dad because she cant lash out at the person shes mad at.

My mom was the same way when we were kids; always mad about something. When she was happy, anger was right under the surface. She would scream at my dad, who would scream back at her, and it was just awful for the rest of us.

As I got older, I had the same anger issues. I was always mad. It felt good to scream at the top of my lungs and to blame my husband for stuff that wasnt his fault. I could feel rage building up in the pit of my stomach and the only way to release it was to explode like a volcano.

One day my husband put me on Front Street. He told me, Youre not mad at me, youre mad at your mom and dad. And youre taking it out on me because you refuse to deal with the things they did to you and your siblings and you refuse to take it out on them. You will NOT take your anger out on me OR I will divorce you. That was quite the wakeup call. I realized he was right.

Your mom takes her anger out on you guys because she feels safe doing so. To date, there have been no negative sanctions for her bad behaviour - you get sent to your room or something when you misbehave, right? That is a negative sanction for negative behaviour. Your mom needs something similar.

I would say she needs deep counseling but she probably would not go. She definitely needs to quit drinking but she will not without a reason.

Your dad needs to buckle down and tell her she is not allowed to act that way any more. He needs to tell her he will take you and leave if she doesnt start overcoming. He needs to tell her that he will not allow her to ruin his life - or yours - anymore. Your dad has the power to help your mom. I am sure he is feeling as helpless as you are, but . . . that is his wife and so it is far more difficult for him than it is for you.

And my dear, you need to realize that she is not angry at either of you. You need to remember that as you get older. I dont know how old you are, but if you are in your teen years, you have the right to tell her the same thing:

Where are you going? I am going to Theresas house because I am NOT going to allow you to take your rage out on me. You are not mad at me. Figure out who you are mad at and yell at them, not me. Come up with your own boundaries that you will not allow her to cross, and push back (figure of speech) when she crosses those lines.

I wish I could have told my mom that when I was your age. It would have saved me years of heartache if I had only been able to know then what I know today.

Encourage your dad to go to counseling, even without your mom. Tell your dad to set some boundaries with your mom. The two of you together can tough love her into at least realizing that she needs help.

Good luck, Honey; I know where youre at.

Answer 7

Maybe she needs some positive people in her life. I dont know the whole story, but it seems like your mom is ( c.o.l ) crying out loud. Dad is not helping much either.What about you //// other family members?//////

Answer 8

Have a talk with your dad to arrange some sort of meeting with a doctor or a rehabilitation clinic for her. If she doesn't cooperate, force her. Tough love.

Answer 9

it could be bi-polar, menapause, premenapausal, PMS, PMT, MS, OCD or other mental health issues. i sympathise with you. i have a mother who has fallen out with the doctor coz tehy have had fights and she screams and shouts all day and yup its mental. i think she has MS.