I often get depressed thinking about the low number of friends I have. What makes me the most nervous is that I worry about how many people I will have in my wedding party vs. how many my fiance will have. He has a ton of friends and I have like 2! This may sound crazy, but I sometimes feel like I shouldn't get married because of the fact that the wedding parties will not be even. Have I lost my mind? I even think about just not having a traditional wedding because of it! I used to have a lot of friends, but one by one everyone has turned on me. I would feel embarassed if all of his friends were upset that they weren't in the wedding simply because I don't have enough bridesmaids to match them up with. How can I get through this? What can I do? I know I can't just meet new people and ask them to be in my wedding!
2007-12-31 10:24:37 · 33 answers · asked by BUTTERCUP 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I had this predicament too...I only had 3 close friends and he had like 7...We also had family members we wantedto include(my brother and his sister, as well as his younger female cousin). I told him to narrow it down to 4 friends. Look on the bright side, if he has a lot of male friends chances are they won't feel 'left out' if they're not invited to be in the wedding party...you could always have him invite them to be ushers?
2008-01-02 05:46:38 · answer #1 · answered by The Mrs. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cousin's, Siblings, Aunts anyone you are close to, or some of his friends r family that might be female i have the same problem with mine also, and i have this issue with even numbers, I cant have extra on one side, it looks lopsided to me.
But hes got some friends I am going to have him ask that hes known for years.
2007-12-31 21:32:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should have your two friends be the bridesmades and thatd be fun and then just invite everyone you know still like family family friends everyone!!! ive never had a wedding cuz im only 16 but im just thinking out loud. have a great time at your wedding.
& hearts,
Destiny C
2007-12-31 10:48:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you have lost your mind. Here are a couple of thoughts on why you should still marry the dude (assuming the issues above are his only problems):
1) Wedding should be paid for according to the number each party invites (You parents will be ecstatic about this one)
2) His friends will become your thus saving you the effort of having your own friends. This comes with the opportunity to be more selective in choosing whom you want as a friend later on (You get to try them before committing them as friends)
3) I see a nice business opportunity: Rental Bridesmaids (you can use the existing channels for rental wedding stuffs; legal disclaimer: if you start this business, I expect 35% of the profits; none of the losses)
4) Yes, this does sound weird to me; but not to worry. I think electing the current president twice is weird, but more than half of us did it at least once.
5) Depending on where you live, the Mrs. and I could be ringer wedding attendants on your side. And finally
6) If it is really that important to you, consult a mobster to "handle" his guests before hand; just make sure you consult an attorney before hand. I don't recommend you excersize this option under any circumstances even though it will guarantee you many new friends in the slammer.
2007-12-31 10:37:47 · answer #4 · answered by fusion 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Its not weird, its part of the emotional roller coaster you are riding as a Bride to Be. Relax and suggest that you have a small bridal party and that all his friends are invited to the reception. If they want to be "in the wedding" there are plenty of things they can do beside just standing by their friend at the alter. Besides it is you and your fiance's day not the friends who want to be the center of attention.
2007-12-31 10:37:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats ok. im sure your fiance will understand! invite those 2 friends! and dont forget your family!
2007-12-31 10:31:08 · answer #6 · answered by i <3 whales 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it matters how many people are on your side of the wedding chapel. I think it's all about the people who love you that are there to support you. Don't call off your wedding just because of an excuse like that. If you are willing to call off your wedding, you know it's deeper than something like the amount of people from your side. And you don't need to have the same amount od brides maids for the groomsmen. They can be uneven. It's not a big deal! I hope you go through with it. Talk to your fiancee about anything AND everything that bothers you. I wish you both the best and Happy New Year!
2007-12-31 10:30:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya it is weird! and if you are worid abotu your friend population join a club in your town that you injoy and make good frieds!
2007-12-31 10:29:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 5⤋
Do you have cousins or someone in your family you could ask? If not, don't worry about it! There's no rule that says you have to have the same number of close friends as your husband. If 2 is all you can do then so be it. It's YOUR day. Enjoy it ! There's plenty of other opportunities his friends can fill in for. Ushers for example.
2007-12-31 10:28:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
no, your few friends may mean more to you and you mean more to them, than your fiance's - Have a happy new year & a nice wedding x
2007-12-31 10:28:08 · answer #10 · answered by Barry C 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋