need some real in depth avdice on carrying a conversation with guys. im quite a shy person. but once i open up...i am friendly and apprently 'funny' :)
but in general im just dont know what to say to the opposite sex. i tend to get nervous, stutter and try to avoide those quiet moments, when just dont know what to say. i just hate the thought of coming across boring! coz im not! i just cant get that normal relaxed placid person out.
however...i can manage on one to one conversations fairly well...like keep the convo going ..but when confronted by a bunch og guys...and me the only girl...i clam up! freak out! try to end the conversation sharpish.
so bascally HELP ME!
thanks happy new yr
ps. im 21yrs old girl!
2007-12-31 09:23:57 · 7 answers · asked by girl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
im talking about guys in general!
2007-12-31 09:24:25 · update #1
I used to always have trouble talking with guys. The important thing to remember is you don't need to talk to them any differently, they're not some kind of strange creature. Just be natural and don't do the thing lots of girls do when they try and be cool and un-bothered by anything because I think the guy will be able to tell you're being fake. When I was around this guy I really liked I used to get tongue tied and come out with really stupid things just because I was nervous. If you get that I would just wait a second or so before you respond to calm yourself down, but not too long or he might think you're a retard lol.
The fact that people say you're nice and funny shows you're a great person to talk to, so you needn't be worried. Hope this helps and have a happy new year
2007-12-31 09:31:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure the best advice to give you, except it's a good thing not to talk to much. Learn to ask open ended questions, but not nosy ones. Generally show interest in finding out more about them. A quality guy will know how to open you up in a conversation. When you see a guy is interested in a topic, pick his brain a little bit. Make him feel like he's explaining something to you or is being given a chance to brag about something he's good at. As far as a group of guys, just start out with a literal "hey guys!" followed by small talk, but most importantly smile! After that, see who is showing the most interest, and just kind of talk to one at a time, and the others will get jealous and throw in their two cents.
2007-12-31 17:35:55 · answer #2 · answered by Ronald G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What!! Don't change. It's nice to see a chick that doesn't always have to be talkin. It says yer a nice girl and not a slut that is always lookin for the attention. If you need sumthin to say, comment on his car or sumthin that he can talk for hours about so you won't need to keep lookin for stuff to say. Guys and chicks never have anything in common so it makes it hard to talk. Just my opinion.
2007-12-31 17:32:01 · answer #3 · answered by Another computer builder 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. We're all human, just relax and talk. Most subject that you can talk to women about, you can talk to men about.
2. Some common subjects are: the weather, sports, news, what kind of job do you have, do you like it, tell me about your family, pets, travel, what do you do for fun?, goals, ambitions, plans, college?, high school, favorite joke, favorite movie, favorite music, favorite comedian, etc.
3. There are whole books about this at the bookstore...
2007-12-31 17:28:54 · answer #4 · answered by hottotrot1_usa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be cool and talk about things both like...
2007-12-31 17:28:44 · answer #5 · answered by Alex Alarcon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just find something all of you have in common talking about something you like to do helps. If they don't like you for who you are than you don't need to talk to them anyways. Good luck. Just be your self. Hope i was some help please let me know if i was or wasn't
2007-12-31 17:28:27 · answer #6 · answered by babe31790 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
show them your boobs
2007-12-31 17:27:05 · answer #7 · answered by harold j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋