My SIL has never liked me & was in high school when my husband & I started dating. A lot of our disagreements came because she failed out of school & she wanted my husband & I to aide or cover for her irresponsible behavior. SIL has never liked me, she's never made it a secret she wished her brother had married the girlfriend she liked. What threw me for a loop is my mother in law recently stated that SIL has been trashing me to family friends and that MIL was fine with SIL trashing me to her and my FIL, but not to family friends or exteded family members. What does this mean? My SIL is one of those girls who has her parents wrapped around her finger, she always gets to do whatever she wants. Is SIL trashing me just an extension of her never being repremanded or does my MIL not like me? My husband thought his parents liked me, he says they've treated me better than anyone else, but my hubby and I are confused by this. I feel akward around MIL now, please help.
2007-12-31 09:09:19 · 27 answers · asked by MazyStarFan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Since it's your mother-in-law and you want a good relationship with them (at least that's what it seems like) you should interpret it in the best possible way until you have reason to believe that she meant something bad towards you by it.
She may have just meant that she wants your sil to be able to express herself freely to her parents but does not want her gossiping about you to other people because she loves you, too. That is how I would take it (at least until you have reason to believe differently) just for the sake of peace in your family.
The worst way to go about it would be to cause further contention. If you really want to know, the best way to go about it would be to let them know that you love them and ask them very lovingly how they feel about you - it doesn't have to be anything formal - formality might make it too weird unless his family just is very formal.
It's not an uncommon issue for people to wonder if their in-laws love them or not so as long as you go about it in the right way they won't think that it's weird. Remember that your mil had a mil once, too. If you communicate how you feel to her it may strengthen your relationship.
2007-12-31 09:19:27 · answer #1 · answered by Roxcy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe if your sister in law had a boyfriend she would spend less time talking about you. Also your mother in law is embarrassed about her daughter calling the rest of the family to bad mouth you because how do you think that makes her look?
Distance yourself, you can not reason with crazy people.
2008-01-02 06:14:21 · answer #2 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In-law relationships are different than any other relationship because the way you treat them will affect your relationship to your mate. THEREFORE, in the interest of a happy marriage, listen respectfully to her, thank her for wanting the best for you and your spouse, and tell her what a good mother-in-law she is. THEN go rinse all the crap out of your mouth and go on with your life.
2016-05-28 07:03:07 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If hubby is a man he will deal with this and set them all straight. If he's not, you'll soon know.
2007-12-31 10:07:17 · answer #4 · answered by pinky 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think its more a problem of your MIL not wanting to discipline her brat of a daughter rather then her not liking you. It sounds like your SIL gets away with a lot and this is just one more thing. I think its more a reflection on your MIL's inability to stand up to her daughter then it is about her not liking you.
2007-12-31 09:34:14 · answer #5 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHY IS YOUR HUSBAND ALLOWING HIS FAMILY TO TREAT YOU THIS WAY IN THE FIRST PLACE???? He needs to act on your behalf and go to his family and let them know that he doesnt appreciate what is being said by the family and that despite their attitudes he loves you and you are there to stay. Nothing says they have to like you but you are his choice and they should respect that by keeping their mouth shut.
2007-12-31 09:18:18 · answer #6 · answered by arelda1 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The way it sounds to me is that your MIL and FIL know how to take her comments as they know what she is like. But when your SIL makes those comments to people who might take it more seriously they draw the line.
I would take it as them standing up for you, that they like you enough not to let her trash you to people that arent able to take her words with a grain of salt.
I would thank your MIL for reprimanding your diva of a SIL. In different words of course!! :)
2007-12-31 09:15:46 · answer #7 · answered by dreamsofanangel00 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why not sit down with your husband and his family and ask what is going on ?
Let them know that you respect them and love them and hope they return the feelings.
Good luck.
2007-12-31 09:15:35 · answer #8 · answered by Cammie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should ask her what she meant by the comment. Best way to get right to the root of the problem.
2007-12-31 09:13:39 · answer #9 · answered by Sabrina 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Take it from me...sister in laws are usually b*tches. Mother in laws are pains. It's like the law or something.
2007-12-31 09:12:25 · answer #10 · answered by Yeah. 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋