My ex boyfriend told me i was the only girl he loved. Well thats until he met someone new. He told me he loved her, but wasn't in love with her. Silly enough i believed him and i stuck around. His relationship with her lasted longer than anyone could even imagine. My hope was up. I gave up on him. And i told myself that i would never look back because he hurt me too much. But now he is not with her, and he recently contacted me asking for another chance. Believe it or not. I still love him with all my heart. But i some ways i feel like he doesn't deserve me. but the love in my heart is too strong for him. and i feel like he feels the same, even though he has hurt me as many times as he did. now i'm lost on what i should be because he claims he will never hurt me again. and that he wants to be with me forever. what should i do about my situation?
2007-12-31 09:08:37 · 10 answers · asked by chocolateanglebabe 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i've kinda been here before actually i'm here now but mine was over a decade.if you love him then follow your heart but don't put yourself out there. meet new people and keep it casual with him.sometimes when a guy sees the love a woman has for him he will never let it go again and that's just what im learning
2007-12-31 09:17:45 · answer #1 · answered by ladydredlox 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
basically you are not using your common sense here and he will take advantage of you for the rest of your life unless you focus on your career goals and lifes goals and start doing something for you - do this for me - leave him alone for 3 months straight - do not communciate with him and focus on you - see how you feel after that
2007-12-31 17:31:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE IS A LOSER,FOR DUMPING ON YOU,AND YOU WILL BE A LOSER FOR DRINKING HIS LIES,ENJOY YOUR PAIN!
2007-12-31 17:23:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've pretty much answered your own question when you stated.. " But in some ways I feel like he doesn't deserve me"... You are feeling that way for a reason.... the reason you feel that way is because IT IS TRUE.
Yeah, that's what gets us all-the feelings in our heart.... He'll keep on hurting you and I know you don't want that. You were strong to get over him and move on... just keep doing that.
But this is my opinion-you can do whatever you want.
2007-12-31 17:18:51 · answer #4 · answered by Marie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he promised not to hurt you again I am sure he won't-until he meets another girl he loves but is not in love with. I will give the same advice I gave my daughters do it once if you want because you may be right or at worst fooled again, but not ever a third time.
2007-12-31 17:17:40 · answer #5 · answered by GunnyC 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, no you don't love him... you love what you WISH he were, and what you THOUGHT he was and your IMAGE. But him? Nope, not unless you as well, love pain.
Here's what my mom started hammering into my head beginning when I was 13... you didn't say how old you were, but.... never too late.
1. The most important decision you will ever make is who you marry. Choose with your head as well as your heart.
2. Have no children until your bond is strong, and have no more than you yourself can support. You may just have to
3. At any and all costs finish your education to qualify for those high paying jobs. It is likely that you will work sometime during your marriage, probably for decades…. Get paid for it. And remember, your kids and your education are forever…. Husbands, lovers and promises are not!!
4. Have a stash of cash no one knows about even if you are sure you will never need it. You absolutely will, and the more the better.
Hon, you are being kept as the Jerk in Reserve, and yes, he will indeed do this to you again, and again, and again .... ever hear, "Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me"?
Find out why your self esteem is so low, sweetie. Get a session of counseling, and be sooooo happy you aren't married to this jerk.
2007-12-31 17:17:16 · answer #6 · answered by ladyren 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont go back to him because if you do he will think that he can do it again without real consequences. you're right - he doesnt deserve you
just celebrate the new year and dont let him ruin your night
its normal to love him still
i still love my ex but i told him to get out of my life and leave me alone only last week
i know it hurts now but they say it gets better
im in the exact same situation apart from the other girl was supposed to be a good friend of mine
good luck with whatever you decide
2007-12-31 17:16:34 · answer #7 · answered by sugden_vicky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
4get him he is a loser okay how can he love u and love another gurl
2007-12-31 17:14:23 · answer #8 · answered by lady_drama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a jerk and doesn't deserve you. Trust me, there are better guys out there, and one of them is waiting for you. Don't believe this one for a second.
2007-12-31 17:13:27 · answer #9 · answered by csbp029 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
noooooo !
once a player , always a player !
dont fall for it sweetie !
(:
2007-12-31 17:11:59 · answer #10 · answered by justagirl21 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋