A few days ago I asked my boyfriend what was the plan for New Year's? He said he was going out with two of his friends but didn't invite me along? All I said was I thought we would be spending it together. I'm not the type of girlfriend who gets bothered by guys spending time with guys on their own... I totally get that. I'm also not the type who needs or expects to be with each other all the time. But I'm confused about this one. Do most guys want to be with thier girlfriends on holidays or do they do it out of obligation? It didn't matter to me if we are with a group or just he and I. A friend of mine told me my boyfriend is acting like he's not in a relationship. I would appreciate any insight. Thanks!
2007-12-31 09:01:41 · 19 answers · asked by Charlotte's mom 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Depending on how emotionally connected you two are I would think that he would want to spend it with you. I know that if I could be with mine I would like think that she would want to spend it with me. Its free will my dear.
2007-12-31 09:06:47 · answer #1 · answered by Lucas E 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, I applaud you for putting such an effort into your spirituality. The way you put it, it seems that your efforts became more of a chore than actually spiritually connecting. The thing is, have you ever heard the "joke" where a man is stranded in the middle of the ocean, and every time a boat came by he refused to be taken in and said "no, God will save me?" Eventually he died and was informed that God had, in fact, sent every boat to him. Furthermore, if it is not necessary, the greater forces will not comply with your demands. Perhaps you and your boyfriend were not truly meant to be. Perhaps your grandmother was ready to die. Perhaps you may have been fired from your job and you were put into a lower position, but now you must keep your eyes and ears open for opportunities that will make your career better. Perhaps it wasn't your fault, or anyone's, that your cat died - it was just bad luck. We, as people, are presented with challenges so that we may rise out of them. Some challenges are worse than others, but with the karmic flow you will eventually come out of this rut with a better situation that you had before. Also, you seem to be a little confused by the fact that you prayed, and did all this Bible reading and stayed chaste, yet you never felt any true spiritual content. I admit, I have been in the same situation as you - I would go to church, and see everyone around me so profoundly touched by a spirit I just didn't feel, and I was confused and lost and honestly a little hurt. I started to research various religions, until I found one that resonated with my very soul. You should look and research until you find a religion that you just have to do more research on, you're compelled to buy books and reread and reread the Wikipedia article, find and gather everything you can until you have all the knowledge. A religion that keeps you awake at night, curious and hungry for more knowledge. That is a religion that will bring you to spiritual enlightenment, and feel at one with the greater forces. Every religion has the same goal - enlightenment - but each also has their own path. Look for a path that works with you and your life.
2016-04-02 05:02:16 · answer #2 · answered by Keyo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should spend New Years with you. This happened to me once but we were dating for 8 months. I decided to go out with my friends instead of sitting at home trying to figure out his problem. My friends and I hit a bar we usually don't go to because of a local band that was playing. Guess what my Boyfriend(EX NOW!) was there making out with some girl. Hope he had fun made me lose my Long Island Iced Tea in his face. Never spoke to him again!
2007-12-31 09:20:43 · answer #3 · answered by kita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no its not wrong --- what is wrong with guys??? --- spending time with other guys instead of someone that they supposedly care for that is a lot more interesting to look at has more interesting conversation and is a lot more interesting to hold ---- and i do expect to be with my lady all the time --- thats what its all about you want to be with someone not with other people especially on special occasions ---- best wishes
2007-12-31 09:09:45 · answer #4 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have been with him for a year..i would think it was perfectly reasonable of you to expect to spend New year's eve with him..or with a group of friends of his or yours..but...together, which ever.
I could see him saying that if you were together for only a month or something, and nothing was serious etc..but a year is a relationship..
I'd be hurt for sure.
2007-12-31 09:07:44 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my bf was the one who wanted to see me and get together when we started dating. I think you are right to assume that
2007-12-31 09:06:16 · answer #6 · answered by lizzi9983 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Males dont want to be tied down to their girlfriend on New years. Especially when there is alot of "partying" going on. I think they'd rather be with their friends and be free. You know?
2007-12-31 09:05:47 · answer #7 · answered by reysa 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
he needs to be spending time with you
2007-12-31 09:05:40 · answer #8 · answered by amt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he's spending it just with his friends you can complain. I mean if it isnt family. It was his family then you can't assume he'll just leave his family. But for friends you should tell him that you really wanted to be with him today.
2007-12-31 09:05:18 · answer #9 · answered by caine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im in the same situation and would like to no the answer to.
2007-12-31 09:05:06 · answer #10 · answered by Ashanti 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋