Some women from a church that my future mother in law used to work at have decided to throw me a bridal shower. This is very awkward for me first of all because I don't even KNOW these women. Our budget is tight and we are paying for the wedding and we don't want to pay for meals for people we don't know or love. Do we have to invite them since they are throwing me a shower and buying us gifts?
2007-12-31 08:55:48 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
No, just casually mention that you guys are having a small wedding on a budget. Better yet, have your MIL fill them in so that there will be no expectations!
2007-12-31 09:05:40 · answer #1 · answered by Sharon 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hi.
Well normally those invited to the shower should also be invited to the wedding.
Speak with your future mother-in-law. Perhaps these ladies are just being kind and don't mind not being invited to the wedding. Better to do it now rather than later only to find out that they are hurt by not being invited.
2008-01-01 21:35:54 · answer #2 · answered by iloveweddings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you don't. This falls into the same category as bridal showers given by co-workers. Some people (not all) decide to invite people to the church only. But, you aren't obligated. Nor are you obligated to inviting the stranger next door who decides to walk over a gift to you, the grocer, the baker, or the taxi cab driver.
2008-01-01 15:11:51 · answer #3 · answered by Sondra 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You do NOT have to invite anyone you do not want at the wedding.
Tight budget and YOU paying for it means YOU get to say who is invited to the wedding.
Inform your future mother in law that they are not invited to the wedding, and see what she says about having them invited to the bridal shower.
2008-01-01 09:16:21 · answer #4 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should invite all the women that planned the shower. Ask your future MIL to help you pay for their meals at the reception. If this isn't within either of your budgets, I would find a way to get them to cancel the shower. I'm not sure how to do this but talk to your future MIL and maybe you can think of a polite way to do this. It would be wrong to allow them to throw you a shower and give you gifts and then not invite them to your wedding. I hope you can find a way to include them! Good luck!
2007-12-31 18:13:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that it is the nice thing to do. I mean they are friends of your mother in law and they are doing a nice thing for you it'd be rude to do it. Weddings are expensive, but they should be invited to the wedding.
2007-12-31 17:57:39 · answer #6 · answered by rashida_16 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No you don't, you didn't ask them to throw you a shower. Just let them know how much you appreciate the shower and that you wish you could invite them. They should get the hint.
2007-12-31 17:57:37 · answer #7 · answered by tc22 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO . . if you do not know these people then there is no reason to feel obligated to invite them to your wedding and I surprised they would even consider hosting a bridal shower for someone that they don't know either.
These ladies must either have a lot of extra time . . or extra money . . or both.
Consider yourself fortunate that they want to do this, and enjoy the shower. Send out the Thank You notes within seven to ten days of the shower so they know you appreciated all their time and effort.
Answered by: A Certified wedding specialist / A Professional bridal consultant / A Wedding ceremony officiant
2007-12-31 17:37:53 · answer #8 · answered by Avis B 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nomrally, I would say that you don't have to invite your future mother-in-law's ex-coworkers. But, If they are throwing you a shower, you should invite them.
On the other hand, if you don't want them at your wedding, you should decline their offer to throw you a shower. You can tell them that someone else is throwing you a shower (if this is true) and perhaps invite them to that shower.
Hope this helps/
2007-12-31 17:24:57 · answer #9 · answered by Kara 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You don't have to. But, you can give the host an invite. Or your MIL can invite her. She may have already?? Just didn't tell you.
2007-12-31 17:24:24 · answer #10 · answered by rstylist26 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋