My 12 year old daughter has recently taken a very bad side to life. First I found two packs of empty ciggerettes and empty beer cans in her laundry basket and then she ran up a $1000 phonebill! And just recently she beat up her 10 year old brother.
I've been thinking and I think I should send her to boarding school. I'm a single mom and I can't handle this. Is this good or bad? And if good, please give me links to boarding schools outside of Georgia. Thanks.
2007-12-31 08:52:59 · 13 answers · asked by Dina 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Her father died in January.
2007-12-31 09:04:48 · update #1
I know it isn't always the solution, but she's acting so bad and she is really not making her 3 younger siblings lives better. Her siblings are 10, 5 and 8 months/
2007-12-31 09:08:51 · update #2
First I recommend that you both see a therapist to help the problem. I know she will probably shun it at first, but hopefully she will learn to accept it and maybe it will help her understand her ways and that they are not a way to deal with problems. If none of this works then I would think about boarding school.
Boarding school is not only for bad kids. I am going to boarding school right now and I have never in my life done anything, I am also a straight A student.
I hope this helps you, and if you ever need to talk about boarding school and what it is like I am here. just e-mail me at ask8ergirl13@yahoo.com
2007-12-31 11:11:16 · answer #1 · answered by ask8ergirl13 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she is 12 and has lost her father and now you want to send her away? How about some counselling and do a parenting course to learn to parent effectively. This poor girl is struggling with the loss of her father, the hormones of puberty and if you send her away she just may not be able to cope.
2007-12-31 14:18:58 · answer #2 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with boarding school I went to one for almost three years and it never hurt me. I think it would be just the thing for your daughter to open up a new world for her and keep her out of trouble. Nothing wrong with discpiline and structure and she'll meet lots of new kids.
2007-12-31 11:12:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess you have forgotten what puberty was like? Obviously she can't discuss her feelings with you because all you want to do is stick her into boarding school. It is so obvious that she is crying out to you and all you can think of is to push her away.
Instead of putting her into board get family counseling. You need to learn how to deal with this child's emotions rather than throwing her out of the house.
2007-12-31 11:04:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
that is absolutely AWFUL. you and i are VERY different, and i know for sure when it comes to parenting. that's all i have to even say to you.
2007-12-31 11:01:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋
First, you should consider the fact that her father died. But a good boarding school outside georgia, would happen to be in Rutland, England.
Its called uppingham.
2007-12-31 09:50:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need professional help before you kick her out of the house. Get her to a counselor, especialy one who deals with grief issues in adolescence. Good luck.
2007-12-31 09:28:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you'd be better off getting her some counselling. If her dad died rercently, she may still be having a hard time dealing with that. If you go the route of boarding school, she may resent you for it, or feel more "abandoned", because she's not only lost her father, but she's being sent away by her mother.
2007-12-31 09:26:09 · answer #8 · answered by cherry 1 · 5⤊ 1⤋
It sound like you need help! Try telling her to stop.. this after all could kill her! Please Please send her somewhere to get fixed up!
Boarding shcool sends good displine-- you may want to look at it this way though-- she gets exetremelly mad and starts doing WORSE things! Your desision!
2007-12-31 09:04:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
My question to you is, where is the father? If he hasn't been a part of her life and there is no real male role model around, maybe you need to think about that one.
If her father is around, is there relationship strong? Sounds like to me your daughter is having some rough time and is pushing your buttons, for her to put the stuff in her laundry basket...she wanted you to find that.
Boarding school is not the answer at all. What you should do is have her go to a counselor, but maybe the first step is for you to talk to her one on one.
Don't yell, don't get upset, let her know you're there to listen and want to help.
She will and may get all defensive and upset with you and do what she can to push your buttons, but give her options, such as, if she doesn't feel comfortable talking to you, who does she and if she says no one, then tell her either she starts talking to you, or you will make her go to counseling.
You have to let your daughter know that you care and that you're concerned about her.
It may end up being something small, but it could also be something big and be prepared for the worse.
But I highly suggest counseling.
2007-12-31 09:01:16 · answer #10 · answered by !?! 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋