Ok i have been married for 3 years but been with my husband for 5 years i met him before he joined the military we were high school sweethearts we lived in CA but when he got his orders i moved to VA he left on his second tour and we were fine we had plans to start a family to get a bigger place no sign of any problems a couple of weeks ago he stoped talking to me saying he was confuse on what he wanted out of life and opted for not talking to me not calling me or emailing not saying a reason absolutely nothing. After talking to a friend who's husband on the ship i found out he was holding a relationship with someone he worked with i emailed him letting him know that i knew the situation and that i wanted to get a divorce he let's me know he loves me but has no idea what he feels for this other woman and for me to wait til he gets home to clear his feelings i honestly don't know what to do or what are my rights as his wife he put me in a position i never imagined myself in what can ido
2007-12-31 08:51:15 · 7 answers · asked by cutebunny1122 3 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
He keeps saying he doesn't know what he wants but the simple fact that he has been with this girl and that he holds a relationship with her makes me wants to end this. Everyone who he works with know the situation but nothing has been done and all i want is to protect my rights i love him but i have given to much to receive this please help!!
2007-12-31 08:56:27 · update #1
im in CA with nothing except my clothes im staying with my parents but all my stuff is over in VA and i don't know how all that will work
2007-12-31 09:00:24 · update #2
Any legal advice you get from YA is going to be at best questionable. Go talk to the Chaplin at the base you are posted at, Good Luck and I hope you can work things out.
Vet-USAF
2007-12-31 08:55:52 · answer #1 · answered by ฉันรักเบ้า 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a military dependent with a military ID card, you are entitled to the services of a Legal Assistance attorney on base. Where else can you get FREE legal help?
They cannot prepare divorce papers for you, but they can explain your rights to you, and tell you what you could expect from a local civilian court if you decide to go through with a divorce. They can also recommend a local attorney for you.
Go to the base nearest you -- doesn't matter if it's the same branch of service. You need to know what your rights are, and what to expect.
Then you can decide whether you want to give him another chance. No one can decide that but you. Unfortunately, if he's cheating on you now, chances are good he'll do it again, especially if he's deployed where the chances of getting caught are much less. Sad to say, but it happens all the time.
How much longer till he gets home? Can you stand being "in limbo" for that long? Go and talk to the chaplain to help sort out how you feel, and what you want to do. But you have to make the ultimate decision about what is best for your life.
Best of luck to you.
2008-01-07 05:31:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You cannot get a divorce through the military, but YOU CAN get a legal separation agreement, which your civilian lawyer will honor and use to file a petition for divorce. Stop by your nearest JAG office ASAP to get advice before you are hung out to dry!
2007-12-31 23:41:56 · answer #3 · answered by Derby Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I must say I agree with MRSJVD... Jag can explain what legal rights you have , but will refer you off base to someone.
I suggest keep any and all proof you have of him cheating any emails, if he has admitted to having a sexual relationship with someone while married to you for your Lawyer IF you decide to divorce him, I am not a 27D but I have had 2 really close friends go through this I am sorry this has happen to you, but now is the time to get strong and figure out if you want to fight for your marriage and let him go.
No matter what the choice is yours.
Good Luck to you!!!
Again I am sorry
Armywife & Soldier
2007-12-31 18:00:10 · answer #4 · answered by Justice35 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you must consult a CIVILIAN attorney. Military Legal cannot and will not get involved with a civil matter such as divorce.
2007-12-31 17:25:17 · answer #5 · answered by Mrsjvb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a husband.
I think you should wait till his on leave
Best wishes and happy new year.
2007-12-31 16:59:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you need legal help consult a lawyer...
2007-12-31 16:55:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋