ok. theres this one guy. well he and i first started being friends we hit it off rite away and were best friends. then rumors started going around about how we should go out and that he likes me, etc, etc. well we never really talked about them and i kinda knew that um liked me and i was begining to like him. then he didn't want to be my friend. all of the sudden he completely ignored me for about a month. i didn't do anything wrong. i was so upset.then um decided that he wanted to be my friend again. he said that he needed a 'break' and that he got off of it bc he didn't like the 'break'. well now i called him and he never answers. i txt and theres no answer. but the more he doesnt answer the mor e i want to talk to him. then i email him and (usually after a couple days) he answers thoughs. so y wont he call me.
problem:
i dont want ot nag him by saying wats wrong
i want to call him but i know he wont pick up or call me back.
hes great in person.
i want him to want me
2007-12-31 08:49:35 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i sdont want to lose hiim as a friend because hes great but i dont want to feel like hes using me whenever. i want him to chase after me. i want to stop calling him but for some reason i cant stop tlaking to him because im too afraid he'll stop the friendship with me
2007-12-31 08:51:32 · update #1
i sdont want to lose hiim as a friend because hes great but i dont want to feel like hes using me whenever. i want him to chase after me. i want to stop calling him but for some reason i cant stop tlaking to him because im too afraid he'll stop the friendship with me
2007-12-31 08:51:44 · update #2
Well first off, if you trying to contact him over and over and he barely responds then thats slimey. he shouldn't do that and you should be on his tail all the time if he is doing that. you looking desperate if you keep on naggin him like you are and he won't holla back at you. plus the person below me is correct. you can't make someone want you. either they do or they don't. hope this helps girlie. peace
2007-12-31 08:55:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
do u really want to ruin a good friendship because u think u MIGHT like him.... but he may not even see u in that way which is y he seperates himself
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2007-12-31 16:58:32 · answer #2 · answered by bre bre 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The people who started the rumors scared him off. He also liked your friendship but now he is thinking he has to take it further and may not want to go there. Can't you talk to him face to face and tell him you heard the rumors and laugh about it until he relaxes a little. Then, later, you can wait and see if he wants to take things to a different level. Be patient.
2007-12-31 16:58:12 · answer #3 · answered by Lizbiz 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop. Don't call him again, he is playing you and is trying to make your chase him. Girl stop, let him want you, and don't make it easy( that is what he is doing to you) Go out have some fun, let it get back to him that you knew that he didn't want to be your friend anymore, so you are moving on. He will either come back and call you, or you will find out he isn't the one to have as a boyfriend, and certainly not a friend, if he can do what he did.
2007-12-31 16:57:34 · answer #4 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
These are the hardest most repetative words you will ever hear...guys like girls who are hard to get. They are competative by nature and when they see someone who is hard to get, it's a challenge. Go on with your life pretending you're busy and he'll start to come after you when he see's that your not so easy to get in touch with.
Another possibility, and I am being serious because this has happened to me, he might be at a confusing time in his life and he may be gay. He may really love you as a person and think you're cute, but the chemistry may not be there and he may be scared of hurting you. It sounds like you may be a very important person to him and he doesn't want to lose you or hurt you.
Whatever the case may be, back away a little bit and let him come forth.
Good Luck!
2007-12-31 16:57:21 · answer #5 · answered by mirmade13 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The more you chase after him the less he will chase after you. You're doing all the work...many guys like a challenge
2007-12-31 16:54:57 · answer #6 · answered by jaidion 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
heres what you need to do. turnoff the phone and the computer. no texting, clling, e-mailing, commenting etc... you need to sit him down and Talk IN PERSON with him. dont let him leave until everything is worked out. if that doesnt work, ditch him. hes not worthy of you. All women should be treated like princesses. dont let that joker mess with you.
2007-12-31 16:54:51 · answer #7 · answered by halesbop 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i say stay low for a while, he might eventually get the hint and come after you realizing how badly he needs you in his life, but i agree don't beg...begging is your last resort, but also think how badly you want him in your life (sometimes it's good to play dirty)
2007-12-31 16:54:44 · answer #8 · answered by swimfan20744 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off...finish junior high school.
Then...get over him and find someone else. If he wanted to be your friend or your lover, he would not avoid you. You can not change him or any other male...and he has made himself clear: he is no longer interested.
2007-12-31 16:54:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a man, I can tell you that he is too much work already. Wouldn't a simpler more satisfying man be better?
2007-12-31 16:54:20 · answer #10 · answered by Whynot 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋