I'm hurting so much. over a year ago my 23 year old/only brother died. At the time i was with my best friend for over 6 years, always knew he wouldn't marry me because of cultural differences, his family not mine, my family loved him and already treated him like their own. it was so hard going through my brother's death but having him around helped alot, then last year he met a girl through his family and little by little they got engaged, they just got married. aside from a few e-mails he is no longer in my life. i have been seeing somene new, at first i was happy, but now i am dying inside. the pain of my brother's loss and the love of my life marrying another is too much to bear. i have good days and bad ones, this is a bad one. what can i do? i know it takes time,but months after i hurt even more. i go to bed and wake up with such horrible anxiety and pain, it's killing me. i travel, go out with friends and family but i see no end to this pain. I deserve to be happy, help!
2007-12-31 08:33:17 · 4 answers · asked by wahtthefuckiswrongwithme 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Im so sorry...in 77 my mom died..13 mos later my Dad died...Ive been thru alot of he*ll....find someone to share life with....i also lost the love of my life 6 yrs ago...it was horrible agony but im remarried....I left the boring husband cuz I was in love with a Leo and now Im married to an Aries.. Hang in there...OOO
2007-12-31 08:39:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HARD. Do you believe in God? If you do, He is testing you through the pain. You have to tolerate it, if you do it patiently and show him that, then he will reward you in paradise after death. It takes time. Try to find joy in other things. Hope this helps.
2007-12-31 08:58:46 · answer #2 · answered by ES 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all handle adversity in different ways. This pass year my brother commited suside and my mom died of cancer in a hospice facility. I was there and I cried. A few months later doctors though that I had prostate cancer but so far it seems to be ok. While we hurt in life because of what happens, we can do the best we can in our personel circumstances. At this point I do not know you but I would suggest to talk to a family member or someone who will let you vent your feelings. I hope you can find that one. You will be OK. Keep telling yourself that over and over. You will find someone new. Concentrate on one day at a time. Each day has its own anxiety. I will pray for you. Don't give up!!!!
2007-12-31 08:46:13 · answer #3 · answered by Mike S 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know what it is like to loose a brother. My brother was killed less than 100 yards from his home. He had a wife and two beautiful kids. Even today - 10 years later, I miss him. At times I feel selfish that I didn't more with him and even guilty. It takes time to heal a broken heart and talking with your friends and family. Try not to bottle up things, especially sadness, that will take you down quickly.
At least once a year I still cry about the loss of my brother and how much I miss him, but I know that he would want those who loved him to be happy with there life. So I try to focus on the things that make me happy.
2007-12-31 08:40:38 · answer #4 · answered by Just Life, Trying To Live It. 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋