When i went off to college, i met a great guy who i've been dating for almost four months. I really care about him, but we live on opposite coasts, the distance is really difficult over the long breaks. i've also kept in touch over the semester with a guy from my hometown, and would find myself flirting with the guy over emails and such. We hung out once recently, and i told him that i couldnt talk to him anymore because it was getting in the way of my relationship. he was a little upset, but then i gave him a hug, and a kiss as a sort of final goodbye. No tongue or anything, just a peck. I didnt mean that much by it, but i'm still unsure if i should tell my boyfriend or not. I wont do it again obviously, but what should i do???
2007-12-31 08:03:23 · 19 answers · asked by lovelylady098 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I got bored after "should I tell...."
2007-12-31 08:11:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Friend:
i think it is very brave of you to cut ur realationship with that guy, i know it must have been hard.
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However, i do not think it is wise to tell ur bf about it ****only if u are sure that this thing that you've done never reaches to ur boyfriends ears**** if it doese try to come clean but do not tell him about the kiss tell him about the hug and stuff.
GOD forbids if ur BF heard about it you have to do 3 things :
1- deny
2- deny
3- deny
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Good Luck
little john
p.s
if he even finds out you will know how much he cares about you and if he left you well there are other fishes
2007-12-31 16:57:25 · answer #2 · answered by LittlE JohN 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him. Fast. If you don't, he'll feel like you don't trust him or care about him when he does find out. If it really didn't mean anything, then you shouldn't be worried about it.
2007-12-31 16:44:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some of the most relationship-destroying behaviors are fueled by the notion that complete honesty is required. Nothing could be further from the truth! You realized that you had an issue to be resolved, you resolved it, and you did nothing wrong. In addition, you went to these lengths to be sure that you weren't leading anyone on. The kiss was a private, harmless gesture. Let sleeping dogs lie.
2007-12-31 16:32:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it wasn't a big of a deal you should keep it to yourself
2007-12-31 16:26:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it was a passionate kiss, i'd tell you to tell him and hope that he keeps you...
as it was a peck... I'd say don't tell him, and don't be stupid enough to flirt with randoms etc...
some people really don't know how lucky they are to have someone who cares about them...
2007-12-31 16:21:19 · answer #6 · answered by DrV 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him. Whether it was innocent or not it shouldn't have happened since you're in a relationship and if your boyfriend finds out sometime not only did you not tell him but now you look even more suspicious. So it's always best to be upfront and honest and explain to him that you didn't want it to mean anything. But you did what you did and you need to deal with it upfront and honestly otherwise it could blow up in your face
2007-12-31 16:12:44 · answer #7 · answered by blessed mommy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nope! if you tell him he will get pissed. What he doesn't know won't hurt him and it's not like you caught something he would get. Long distance relationships are hard. You are young and should probably make a deal to be together when you are toghether, but not to really worry about it when you are apart. Each of you will grow and expierence new things. Let yourself grow up and meet all the people there are to meet without haveing the burden of being in a lonely long distance relationship.
2007-12-31 16:11:41 · answer #8 · answered by Mmgirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You either tell him and get it off your chest, or don't be surprised when he plays you and takes it too his grave.
I think your not telling the complete truth, but anywho, I wouldn't say anything too him because I think you already know what will happen.
2007-12-31 16:11:25 · answer #9 · answered by 00silky 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i would just tell him and explain the situation to him, because if you don't the guy could tell your boyfriend and he could make it sound a lot worse than it really was.
plus, it's always better if you tell the person instead of letting someone else tell them first. it shows that you're secure in the relationship, and don't think that he's gonna like, freak out on you or something. it doesn't seem that bad to me though.
and, to the dude directly above my post, don't be such an ***, she just wants some help with a decision.
2007-12-31 16:11:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i dont think u did anything wrong....even though i wouldnt want my girlfriend to do dat 2 me...lol...well i mean u could tell him but dats going to lead to an argument and stuff but if he really likes dats gonna be it...u could also keep it to ur self..but if he ever finds out dat might lead 2 a break up...sorry i couldnt help much but it really is up 2 u 2 decide what you should do...if ur willing 2 shed a couple tears now or l8r...
good luck dough...i'm pretty sure u'll be alrite..:D
2007-12-31 16:10:56 · answer #11 · answered by wth 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋