I'm still a virgin, but I was going to have sex and I couldn't get 'turned on' I mean, I was turned on but... I was really nervous and it got really really little. (And I'm not that big anyway.) But I could tell my girlfriend was really freaked out. She said she didn't care, and it didn't matter, but I think she was lying. It was so embarrasing, I don't know what to do... I haven't talked to her since then, and I don't know what to say.
2007-12-31 08:02:40 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We've been going out for a couple of years, so I don't want to lose her because of this...
2007-12-31 08:07:44 · update #1
If she knows you're a virgin, she should understand. It can be intimidating. Just relax next time... try telling her that you want to make it up to her by giving her a full body massage... this will relax both of you and lead into foreplay and then it should go better.
Just don't stress over it. My fiance and I have been having sex for the past four and a half years and it even happens to him every now and then.
2007-12-31 08:08:17 · answer #1 · answered by Amanda P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, first off, FOREPLAY, always do foreplay. It not only puts the woman in the mood but it also calms the nerves, I can guess there's a lot of making out prior to the sex, but you still need to know where. Like mostly on the lips and neck, especially the neck. And WHILE you're kissing her neck, a little afterwards works best, start to undress her or rub her breast(s), then undo her bra, take off her shirt and start kissing her breasts. Once you've gotten that down, start moving your hand down her stomach and finger her, do the best you can on your own, every woman is different, but try everything that comes to mind. After you've soaked her panties, strip her down, also try to keep as undressed as she is during the whole thing, to avoid akward and uncomfortably warm circumstances. Next move on to oral sex, on her, and again, experiment find out what it is she likes to have done to her. Then after you've had a little fun giving her something to have fun about, ask her to blow you, even if you think you're small, it's rarely the size of the boat that matters, besides, most women consider it an added bonus if it's big, but it still matters more about the motion of the ocean, how you rock her in bed. Once you've been blown, wait a little while until you can get right back to it and pop your cherry.
2008-01-03 00:26:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Friend:
first of all, yes she was lying to you size really matter to them unless she was a virgin herself.
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second, if she leaves you becoz of this consider yourself the luckiest man ever. coz things did not get complicated.
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third, try not to talk about it with her, it just makes it worst. coz even if she did not think about it untill that time you talking about it would make her think about it (do you undrestand?)
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General Adivce S**t happens try to relax and live ur life
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Good Luck
little john
2007-12-31 17:03:58 · answer #3 · answered by LittlE JohN 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you better suck it up and give to her or you might just lose her
2007-12-31 16:24:02 · answer #4 · answered by jejeclown1 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
keep ur virginity till ur married.
2007-12-31 16:19:19 · answer #5 · answered by *Dudette* 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you weren't that ready. If you were completely ready that probably wouldn't have been the outcome. Explain it to her and tell her that you really want to wait until your 100% in it with her. And if she disagrees than dump her. You're better off with someone who appreciates you for you and will wait on you
2007-12-31 16:10:53 · answer #6 · answered by blessed mommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both just need to settle down a bit, and relax. Take your time, and both of you should work on just being comfortable with the other person, naked.
Then, when you are both ready, it will happen without any problems.
2007-12-31 16:09:48 · answer #7 · answered by Marc M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alot of it is probably nerves. If you engage in quite a bit of action up front, that tends to set the mood on both sides and eases your mind to where you arent always thinking about it. Sex more less just more less happens when the time is right, just enjoy the ride ( pun intended ). Dont focus so much on preforming, but enjoying being with someone and it will work itself out.
If that doesnt work talk to your doctor.
2007-12-31 16:08:53 · answer #8 · answered by uk2999 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry about it, it is natural to be nervious on your first time, the best thing to do is attually talk to her about it, you will gain confidence and then you will be able to have sex.
Arrange another time when you can be alown, make sure its somewhere you are comftable, like your home, or hers, then sit down and have a little chat, dont be passive and act like its your fault, just say you felt uncomfatble with the surroundings and tell the truth and say you where nervious, if she is any type of understanding girl she will understand.
Good luck and dont worry about it, its water under the bridge!
2007-12-31 16:08:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to relax.
Just take things as they come, don't rush, don't panic, don't feel inadequate. Be yourself, and have confidence in who you are, and that she wants to make love to you - dont put yourself down, be natural and enjoy....
2007-12-31 16:08:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋