I'm in my third year of college and I'm afraid I'll lose her if I don't "get her while I can".
2007-12-31 07:21:53 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
For marriage, it's earlier the better.
Earlier marriages give you chance, I repeat, chance of developing a strong intimacy that generally last until your old age.
Don't procrestinate, you will always regret it! (A brotherly advice). Go, go!
2007-12-31 08:03:36 · answer #1 · answered by Habib 6 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Your young to get married but not to get engaged however, 23 is the perfect age.
2008-01-01 04:05:19 · answer #2 · answered by ѕαяσσηα 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then date until your older, have a steady full-time job, and someplace nice to live (if you have all of these already then: no, 20 isn't too young).
2008-01-01 03:14:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the 20 year old. I was married then but I know plenty of people who would not be ready then or 10 years later even. The "get her while I can" thing worries me.
2007-12-31 08:07:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my junior year of college, I was dating a guy who I thought I was going to marry. A year later, he dumped me for a 17 year old student of his (yes, he was a teacher, how gross!) and I was left having no clue how to re-enter the dating world.
I met my husband in graduate school; we dated for two years and were engaged and married in another year. As we come upon our third anniversary, I have a very happy and healthy marriage.
The point of the backstory? To tell you that I was 25 the year I got married, and I do not regret waiting one bit. I was more mature, settled, and stable. We both had careers that were well on the way to being successful, and I had my own house. We had each had time to grow independently of each other and thus were more ready to make the committement that is required to have a successful marriage. Many friends of mine who married while still in college are either divorced or unhappy in their marriages because they weren't finished growing as a person yet, and then they grew in a different direction from their spouse.
The fact of the matter is, if you are worried about "getting her while you can", you probably shouldn't get her. It's a very immature view to take on a relationship. And if you think she will leave you if you don't get married, you should run like hell, anyway. That kind of girl will only chain you down and whip you... I used to be that kind of girl.
Wait... if it was meant to be, the wait means nothing and you will be happier in the long run.
2007-12-31 07:35:41 · answer #5 · answered by alurllyn 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
The question means nothing
The reason for the question is the problem.
If she has to be trapped now!!
How will you hang on for the next 40 years
2007-12-31 07:34:18 · answer #6 · answered by jimgdad 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If its TRUE love, she'll wait and you will too. Being afraid is a very poor reason for marriage. I'm hearing more and more couples waiting till mid 30's to tie the knot. They're financially secure and ready to start a family soon. Good luck.
2007-12-31 07:31:19 · answer #7 · answered by tobeyp2005 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You think marriage is going to keep her? Your doing it for all the wrong reasons, more so if your insecure about it.
2007-12-31 07:30:09 · answer #8 · answered by krennao 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I dont recommend marrying this young. I married at 19 and I am still married to the same man 15 yrs later, BUT its been a long and extremely hard road that brought us here. I think marrying so young just sets you up for more of a struggle to stay married.
2007-12-31 07:29:53 · answer #9 · answered by Allyson 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Are you hittin it now? Then don't bother to get married
2007-12-31 07:26:38 · answer #10 · answered by deano 2 · 1⤊ 10⤋