My fiance are paying for our wedding in April, my mother wants me to invite her friends that I do not know so she can socialize with them. We are on a tight budget and could not even invite all/ any of our friends. What should we do???
2007-12-31 07:13:52 · 19 answers · asked by Jade M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Graciously explain to your mother that although you would love to include her friends, that your budget doesn't even allow you to invite all of your own friends. If she offers money, then give her an amount for each person and if she wants to pay it up front, then she gets to invite that number of people.
2007-12-31 11:19:29 · answer #1 · answered by Woods 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My FSIL begged and begged for us to invite her friends (a family of 5) to our engagement party so she would have someone there to support her. If your FSIL is anything like mine - she's mental and really could use a therapist to get her through all the problems that in just one way include inviting HER friends to your wedding events. IF she is given an "and guest" invite to your wedding and she asks a girlfriend to go with her if she doesn't have a boyfriend or the boyfriend can't go - - that is OK. But to willy-nilly be inviting people to just show up because she is going as well - - that's just nuts!! And I would do what I did with my engagement party - - have my fiance (FSIL's brother) handle it.
2016-05-28 06:33:31 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jade, Im sure your mother means well. But it's YOUR money, YOUR wedding, YOUR time. IF she wants to invite her friends, then I suggest that SHE PAY for coming to your wedding. Otherwise, I would just tell your mom that your on a very tight budget, and extra guests just aren't in the plans. I wish you much joy. Good luck.
2007-12-31 09:58:28 · answer #3 · answered by Leslie Y 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't - ask Mom to pay for her own friends or just say no
2007-12-31 09:20:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's nice if you can invite a few of your mom's friends, but I completely agree with the others that she should help you pay. If these were long-time family friends, it would be different - but these are people you don't even know! If you can't afford to invite all *your* friends, it seems unfair for your mom to ask you to go over-budget to invite people you don't know. Let your mom know that you want her to have a good time at the wedding, but let her know that you'll need her to help you pay for her friends.
My fiance and I are paying for everything ourselves, like you are. I did invite a few of my mom's friends, but they're all close family friends that I've known for years. My fiance's aunt, on the other hand, has tried to invite lots of people that neither one of us knows. We had to politely but firmly let her know that we were on a fixed budget and that our venue has a limited capacity.
2007-12-31 08:27:30 · answer #5 · answered by SE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask her if she wants to contribute any money, so you could afford to have her friends. If not tell her your sorry, but they are not in your budget. Are you having any of your mothers family at the wedding? If so shouldn't that be enough people for her to socialize with? If not, maybe you could compromise and invite one of her friends. It's really up to you.
2007-12-31 07:46:43 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs S 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Be polite but VERY firm here. This is your wedding, being paid for by you and your fiance. You keep to your list and tell your mother she is welcome to invite her friends, provided she pays in advance for their costs, ALL costs. Otherwise, it will be your guest list only. This isn't your mother's social occasion, it's your wedding! And stick to it!
Mazel Tov, Good Luck, and a Happy Future!
2007-12-31 07:23:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Explain your financial situation to her and tell her if she will pick up the increased expense (in advance and regardless of cancellations (i.e., no reimbursements)), you'll be happy to invite her friends.
2007-12-31 07:22:28 · answer #8 · answered by HoneySuite 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
tell her to pay or just invite them to the after party
2007-12-31 07:22:04 · answer #9 · answered by hey there 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm in the same situation. My parents agreed to pay for their friends meals in addition to our wedding gift. If you mother won't agree with this idea, tell her that her friends are off the list. It's completely reasonable for you to tell her no in this situation.
2007-12-31 07:18:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋