First off, I don't want any of that "be yourself and they will come to you crap" because it's a waste of time and if you guys don't help me I'll find someone that well. By the way, this is a sample of the new me talking, very aggressive and to the point, so lets get to the point.
This year, I met 4 girls that I liked, 1 of which I liked IMMENSELY. I tried to get with them and ended up being "just friends" because I guess they are too retarded to see that I don't want to be their little buddy. SO, I've decided to make a change, first of all, being nice to girls doesn't work for me, so I'm going to change that.
I want to know exactally how to treat girls if I want nearly any girl I want, I don't care what it takes.
I'm 17, 5'6" and have a runner's body (no arm muscles but cut) now tell me what to do so I can stop this torment of watching girls I like go from one relationship to the next without me being one of them.
That's how it is, that's my new year's resolution.
2007-12-31 05:59:00 · 5 answers · asked by chumptheory 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Also, I'm currently in the "friend zone" with that one girl I liked immensly. And in the next few days, I want to either give it one more shot (asked her out twice and she said no) or tell her that I don't want to be her friend and she can **** off.
2007-12-31 06:00:44 · update #1
wow u come on way too strong if this is the new u then it isnt going to work but u should just be the way u usually r, nice and tell them how u feel like u said and if it doesnt work then they r not worth it. sry if this is not what u r looking for then fine but nice sweet guys r the kind of characteristics i look for in a guy
2007-12-31 06:07:34 · answer #1 · answered by izzybella 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Right well it's good that your agressive, but your coming off as cocky, and trust me not to many woman respond to that. Im 23 and have learned that cocky guys really only attract some very seedy woman. So I would keep that attitude to a minimum. You have the right idea to be agressive and go for what you want. The reason you were put in the friends zone is because you didn't pull the trigger when you had the chance. you have to realize it's like playing chess when your dating, or going after that woman. I can go into allot of detail if you want to e-mail me, but for now let me give you a bit of advice to get to where you need to be. The first thing is breaking the ice with a woman, and staying in control of the conversation. Now since I am old enough to go to a bar, and have, let me give oyu some advice. Trust me woman in highschool are the same as in a bar, it's the same social setting and idea. Follow the 3 second rule. That means within 3 seconds of seeing a girl you talk to her. That is just enough time to not overthink it and blow it. Now this takes practice, but after a few trial runs it is really easy. Also it's good you are getting mad, that is good modivaton to change who you are, you don't want to be the friend, you want to be the guy all the woman want. Part of that is being you, and don't compromise that. Don't ever give that away with a girl, they know when you do and they will use it against you. So yeah e-mail me and I can give you some more tips. Hope this helps.
-Ty
2007-12-31 06:30:05 · answer #2 · answered by Tyler C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok. First of all tell that friend to **** off if you are going to start fresh. second, yes the be yourself thing works only if you have already met the girl and she is interested, then be yourself. its really sad how it works, yes you think "hey I'd treat that girl better then any guy in here, i would stay faithful, i would be everything she wants" yhea if only they knew that by just looking at you.
That is why you gotta be this kool guy interesting funny have some money lots of friends it all depends, bam until she gets over the whole " you're not creepy thing" .
Seriously though, it is hard to get the chance, but a girl will like you if she meets the real you and you meet the real her. Put all masks aside and stop being immature. Being yourself can get you far with the RIGHT girl, hint hint meybe you're just hittin on the wrong girls man.
2007-12-31 06:11:30 · answer #3 · answered by Armin h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right, the JBY line is a cop out that people use when they don't know how to tell you what to do to attract a girl. Girls are attracted to very specific things and attitudes. For most of us, we don't really know what it is until we find it, that makes it hard to describe.
It is also hard to change your entire attitude, and you are wrong if you think you can stop being "nice" and attract a girl worth having. The thing is you have to work it so that the attitude you have is nice combined with "bad boy". Girls don't want to have it too easy, they want mystery and independence, you have to give them what they want...but not quite all they want.
This website kind of summed it up for me. It is probably for older guys but it might give you some insights into the girl mentality. sosuave.com
2007-12-31 06:08:35 · answer #4 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See rejected you twice and your asking her out again. Thats so stupid, she will just say no again and your probably starting to piss her off.
As for if she says no, your say f**k off, well that just makes you look like such an unbelievable wa**er. Im sorry but you don't treat girls like that. Your problem is that you are so rude, so they are retards for not liking you? More like your the biggest prick that they have ever seen.
Learn some respect.
2007-12-31 06:04:33 · answer #5 · answered by hammertime 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋