Whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband commiteth adultery?

Question

Luke 16:18

So--a divorced woman is supposed to wait around until doomsday, that's all she gets for putting up with the jerk her ditched her?

What about the guy who is saintly enough to marry a woman with emotional baggage and perhaps a ready-made family--is he actually doing something that conflicts with the word of God?

I'm divorced and not remarried--I don't even date.

But this is one of the scriptures that encouraged me to TRY to work out my marriage, which failed

Yeah, I'm QUOTING the Bible as I just read it.

If you lived 600 years ago you would talk this way too, whether you read the Bible or not

Answer 1

Hi Mary, I am glad to see you back.

This is something that is difficult to deal with in any manor. I can suggest that following the guidance given by our Prophet today is the best answer. I have not heard President Hinkley condem any one for remarrying after a divorce. I have heard him encourage them to try a lot to save their marriage. So it sounds like you have somewhat followed the prophets of today, the ones that that we will are held accountable to for our actions, and how we follow their guidance.
Do the best you can with what you have, and let the saving grace of the Atonement take care of the rest, I know that is the only hope I have of returning to our Father in Heaven.

Note: If I found myself single now, after 24 years of marriage. I would look first at widowed and divorced lady's for marriage. Then I would only consider temple marriage, with hopes of serving missions with her in our latter years. I would also really look at how good of a match we were, I (like most) want my marriage to last for ever.

Now take my recommendation to start dating in some fashion. Find a good man, worthy of your love and devotion. Where ever one might be....
I value our friendship.

Happy New Year!!!

Answer 2

the process , if you want to be right, in the eyes of God. Is that you have the church make a determination upon its throughl investigation, as to the validity of that marriage. It is quite possible that the marriage is invalid due to the disposition of the one making the vows. Which would nullify the marriage and one would be quite free to marry again in such a case. Your marriage is probably one that could be annulled. but unfortunately the catholic church is the only one who does this, in protestant churches , they have to validate the divorce to be right with God, and in the bible it states that one who puts away their wife etc. forces their spouce to commit audultry. If you ask the catholic church, they will indeed do this for your marriage, but you must go to them and ask first. The church assumes, all marriages to be valid, even non catholic ones. the Lord dont expect you to sit around and be alone and wait for the jerk or looser you married to change from bad to good, he provided a church, that can deal with these problems, so that no one has to commit audultry, but annulments are not the same as a divorce, and if your marriage were found to be valid, you would not be free to remarry.

Answer 3

The scripture is clear that God hates divorce and that God is very serious about the covenant of marriage. After all, the covenant relationship between husband and wife is a model of the covenant relationship that Jesus Christ has with his church.

This world has become very complicated due to our insistence to do things on our own without relying on God and without asking God for guidance. Broken marriages is one of the results of that rebellion against God's plan.

Any wife in physical or emotional danger needs to remove herself and her children away from the abusive husband immediately and should not return until he gets professional help. God can work in that broken relationship and restore it if both spouses will humble themselves before the Lord and call upon Him for healing realizing that Jesus Christ is their only hope!

God's plan is that young people will humble themselves and seek Christ with their whole hearts. To sincerely experience God in relationship before ever seeking a spouse. To cry out to God persistently that He would transform you into a person worth marrying, and to protect you from sexual immorality for the sake of your future spouse.

Marriage in America, and the world is in real trouble and I don't have all the answers for every situation. Perhaps a godly man who comes into the life of a hurting divorced woman with kids could be very beneficial to the spiritual condition of that family. I would agree that some marriages can be permanently damaged and irrepairable. Probably because one or both of the spouses does not know the Lord and refuses to humble him/herself before the Lord. In that case I believe scripture teaches that the christian spouse can let the non-believing spouse walk away from that marriage and divorce with a clear conscience before God and I believe that christian divorcee can remarry -- this time a godly partner who follows Christ.

Answer 4

You are married until death due you part.

If a saintly man want to help the woman and her ready-made family he could always decide to support her and live in celibacy while her jerk that ditched her is still alive instead of helping her to commit adultery.

Answer 5

If you have proof of fornication then that is spiritual grounds for divorcing.Matt 19:8,9:the innocent is permitted but not required to divorce a mate who commits 'fornication".
www. watchtower org for more information .

Answer 6

you omit one important thing... if marriage vows are broken by party A, then party B is free if they choose to be, or can stay and try to make it work....

another is that this comes in the middle of an argument with the religious leaders who were claiming that one can legitimately divorce a woman because she burnt the toast! it's called hyperbole... look it up

Answer 7

For all those who are saying this law comes from the "old testament":

No, this is NOT from the "old testament" - the Jewish bible.

Being able to remarry after a divorce is and always has been permitted in Judaism. This is NOT considered adultery whatsoever.

The idea of it being adultery is purely Christian.

It is not found in Judaism, then or now.

Jesus (the new testament writers) invented that one.

Source: Torah, me, Jewish

Answer 8

sounds like your religion is standing between you and happiness.

So what do you want, to be miserable and keep yourself from being roasted for eternity by that big lovable sky god who loves you so much that he will send you to burn for remarrying, or decide that this is just really kind of silly and I would like to make the most of this life while I can?

Answer 9

This is where being a Biblical literalist sucks. If you take this statement as literal, you have to obey under all circumstances. If you look at this statement while thinking about it's highly controversial context at the time (Herod Antipas' remarriage of his brother's wife), then you can see that it is based on circumstances.

Answer 10

You need to look at all the texts on the subject. Elsewhere in the Gospels there is an exception clause: infidelity on the part of the other partner. this infidelity means having been unfaithful to the marriage covenant, breaking it irretrievably. So if your partner goes to live with someone else, then you are free to marry again. Whether that's a good idea for you is another question: make sure you have dealt with your "baggage" first.