So I dated this guy before, like 2 months ago. But we broke after 2 weeks because we didn't really didn't know eachother at all. We were both rebounding, but we know eachother WAY better now, hes one of my best friends. Well we sorta kept seeing eachother , in the sense that we still continued to make out and stuff, and we acted like bf/gf when we were together. Well the other day he confessed he had feelings for me, but hes not big on relationships. He wants to be able to flirt with other girls, which i dont care about. But lately he acts as if he's mwanting a relationship with me (btw, i put and end to the "just friends that..make out" situation when i found out his feelings were involved, i dont play with feelings, its unfair) So should I try to attempt a relationship again, or just admit we're both screwed up and let go But the thing is, no matter how screwed up we are, we can't stay away from eachother. Hes not a bad guy, my heart and my head are at odds with this one.
2007-12-31 05:20:16 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
OK..here's a little more insight. He doesn't like relationships because the ones he's been in have been ones where the girls were practically trying to get married in a week, and he feels like a horrible boyfriend if he doesn't want to. He's only had feelings for 2 girls in his life, one being me, and its kinda scares him. He thinks he can't be in a rela relationship...but he can. he is a good guy. And the flirting, doesn't bother me, asz long nas i know what hes doing, because i ave alot of guy friends, i dont flirt with him, but it makes him umcomfortable, but hes okay with it..and flirting, thats just him,, if you knew him it'd make sense...so im cool with it. As long as its not more than that....
2007-12-31 05:38:58 · update #1
He's not into relationships and likes to flirt with other girls. That sends a pretty obvious message. He is not ready to settle for one woman. Talk to him and see if he is ready to give up the flirting and have a relationship with you. If not, then continue to be his friend, until he is ready. In the mean time, do some flirting of your own and have some fun. Maybe if he sees you dating and doing what he does, he will make a decision more quickly.
2007-12-31 05:30:01 · answer #1 · answered by trouble 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are so many problems with this scenario.....where to start?
1. You made out as "friends", but you don't play with feelings and pushed him away once he admitted feelings for you. That doesn't make any sense.
The first thing I'd do is start to redefine your definition of a friend. A friend is someone you talk to and hang out with, not make out with or get touchy feely with them. Would you do that with one of your girl pals? I doubt it.
2. He's not big on relationships. He wants to be able to flirt with other girls. AND he wants to still have a making out "relationship" with you. That screams PLAYA all the way! Steer clear of that kind of guy unless you REALLY enjoy getting your heart stomped on. Trust me, I've been there enough times to see the pattern of behavior in more than one person. It never bodes well.
All that being said, you have to decide whether you can be "just friends" or if you want to chance a relationship with him that will almost inevitably end in him cheating on you.
If you can't seem to do either, then maybe it's best you make a break--and make it a clean break. Not only are you protecting yourself from making a huge mistake, but you are also protecting him from the drama of a huge and nasty breakup later on down the road.
2007-12-31 13:59:36 · answer #2 · answered by Amy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont necessarily have to involve feelings I think you should stick together as good friends and take it as far as you can, this way atleast the relationship may build up to one where you never know you might end up married some day!!!!
2007-12-31 13:27:44 · answer #3 · answered by kam786 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...It seems you 2 have a big heart for each other. I think you should make a relationship with this guy. He sounds like a good guy. If it doesn't work out then just break up. It's as simple as that.
2007-12-31 13:25:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course, it seems like you like him and he likes you, I think it's as simple as that, I mean I'm not the jealous type, if my bf were to do a little flirting I might be uncomfortable with that, I would be, but what can I say I do that too...*comes into realiazation about something*, but anyway, I think you should give the guy a chance.
2007-12-31 13:25:32 · answer #5 · answered by Shichiyou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should see it through. at least you will know that you tried. give it a shot.
there's no reason to stay away from each other!
2007-12-31 13:25:30 · answer #6 · answered by Doodles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you both started this relationship so messed up, its better to stop now.
But if you're in love with him, you should give it ago to have a stable relationship with him. Go with the flow and maybe he's worth for a risk!!
2007-12-31 13:24:53 · answer #7 · answered by 721 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BUY HIM A SNICKERS BAR THEN.........DUMP HIM
2007-12-31 13:24:28 · answer #8 · answered by bad053 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I wouldnt be happy in a relationship where he can flirt w/ other girls. That makes it okay to cheat. He's not big on relationships anyway, so i think you should let it go and let your heart take you somewhere to a man who is dedicated and doesnt want to "fool around".
2007-12-31 13:24:05 · answer #9 · answered by Selia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God, it's so obvious that you two were born to be the best of friends....not lovers.
Keep him in your life but I don't think it's a sexual chemistry.
2007-12-31 13:24:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋