...I know it's never a good idea. We broke up this summer, would get together and make out or just hang out as friends, either way we always have a great time together. But then i told him it was hard for me to seperate being friends from "other feelings", and he told me the kissing would never happen again and that he didn't have any feelings. but we've ended up making out both times we've seen each other over the past 2 weeks. i love feeling that close to him again. i won't have sex with him and he knows that. he does things like "eskimo" kiss me (rubbing noses) or hold my hand when we're together, which makes me think he still likes me as more than just a "make out buddy". what should i do? do i keep doing it being unsure of how i feel? neither of us are seeing anyone else, but he's always very curious when i talk to other guys or have a date and wants to know how many dates i've been on, etc. is he still interested?
2007-12-31 04:47:28 · 7 answers · asked by lkh 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well i am going through the same thing with my ex so i know how confussing it is. I would sit down and have a heart 2 heart talk and tell him that ur getting confussed as far as his feelings are concered because he says one thing and does another. I also know that its hurts at the same time because ur trying not to get hurt but u are. u also need to sit down and try to figure out ur feelings. before u talk to him u need to be very sure of what u want and how u feel. I know it feels good to be that close to him, but u need to play it safe. if hes not sure of what his feelings are, u need to tell him that until he figures it out, u guys need to take some time apart. also if the breakup was mutual or if he was the one that left, it might be that he still has feelings for you. I really hope this helps you.
2007-12-31 05:00:10 · answer #1 · answered by cookiemonser420 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has told you flat out that he no longer has feelings for you. You could try asking him again if he's sure he doesn't or not, but if he still says no, then he needs to stop playing with yours. If you can't control yourself with him, then you are just setting yourself up for heartache and pain.
Tell him straight up that you can no longer be physical with him simply because you have feelings and he doesn't. You will need some time to get over those feelings, and every time you snuggle, kiss, or make out, you basically pick the scab on your emotions and make it all raw again.
2007-12-31 12:59:36 · answer #2 · answered by Elizabeth 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're both masochists. Who wants to just "make out?" I'm sure most of the guys agree w/ me.
2007-12-31 12:55:53 · answer #3 · answered by Mac S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him whats the meaning of all of that and you should not be allowing him to give you all these mixed emotions. Its either you both make back or call it quits.
2007-12-31 12:55:22 · answer #4 · answered by START 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't have anyone but he likes the way making out makes him feel. He misses the closeness but, he doesn't see being with you as a long term thing.
He probably likes you as a friend and thinks your attractive, but loves the way it feels better than he likes you. He'll stay with you until he finds someone else and you'll have developed feelings for him again and be hurt.
2007-12-31 12:54:05 · answer #5 · answered by b b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's interested in keeping you around for making out and stuff, but has no intention of making you his gf again. If he really cared about you, you would already be together like that. He likes his freedom, but also knows he can come around you and make out and stuff, because he knows you still like him that way. He's manipulating you, and the sad thing is that you are falling for it.
2007-12-31 12:52:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He still wants to control you and be free, free yourself from him, of course it feels good to snuggle, yet you broke up for a reason. Remember that reason and be done and move on.
2007-12-31 12:51:15 · answer #7 · answered by Bright Baboons Butt 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋