my girlfriend of two years wants to marry me and she head over hills in love me so she saids.she is jealous,inscure and hate me to be online cause she think im seaching for a new love intrest and we together all the time and work together on the same job and shift .I can't get any me time plus my family like her more then anyone i ever been with what should i do.the only affection i get from her is cuddling & she cater to my not so important needs and i have to beg for loving(sex) and she hate kissing......
so my question is why should i even bother but she bugs me on marriage all the dang time but i can't get my way with her.So what the hell she want me for???? we surpose to marry on March the 8th 2008
2007-12-31 04:32:06 · 12 answers · asked by A New Married Man 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we can't talk she don't listen
2007-12-31 04:42:20 · update #1
Has something happened in the relationship that may have made her feel insure? If so that could be part of her problem as far as the kissing and sex. But it almost sounds like you may not really want to get married. Before taking that step really think about it!! I wish you two the best.
2007-12-31 04:46:21 · answer #1 · answered by Tania 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she has some good sides and bad sides. She loves you, and that's good. That's what you really want. But if she doesn't like to kiss or make love and you do, that could be a problem. Mutual sex drive is crucial. You work together, and live together? That's alot of together time. Suffocation could be an issue. What happens when PMS arrives and you work together? You can't get away from her.
I don't know what to say.
2007-12-31 12:45:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she wants to take your relationship to the next level but she's not doing anything to contribute to advancing your relationship. I can understand her insecurity and jealousy, as you said, she said she is head over heels in love with you. She is very afraid that she will loose you.
Maybe she doesn't want to get physically involved with you because both of you aren't married yet... some people believe they should not loose their virginity before marriage.
Most people say that their needs to be other valuable things in relationship other than sex, but both physical and mental contributions are equally important. A drop in sex is a sign of a bad relationship.
If you want to end the relationship, your parents should not stop you from doing what's best for your own well fare.
However, if she thinks you're searching for a new girlfriend, that's just wrong. She's abusing her privileges. In order to take this relationship higher, she needs to give you time and space. If she keeps watching over you like a hawk, such as monitoring your time online, then it is a really bad sign of a bad relationship (this I have witnessed). If things escalate to her monitoring your phone, and how many times/where you go out, then, either communicate with her or break it off. This "monitoring" business escalates into her controlling your life (again, I have witnessed this) and then you're stuck with her for 10 yrs which means you've wasted 10 years of your life with someone who's going to control you.
Discuss with her, communication is the key. If she's willing to play her part ( give you more space and time, spend more time with you, cater to your needs ) then just think... do you love her? If the answer is yes, then I say you look into taking your relationship to the next level.
2007-12-31 12:44:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey save your self and dont,explain to your parents the type of person she really is.about the sex part thats probably because you two are not married yet,but clearly we both see that she seems controlling.
2007-12-31 12:43:59 · answer #4 · answered by fantasticgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should talk to her about it. if you don't think shes the right one for you, do something. maybe go away for a few days, see what its like to be "free" again. or just tell her you need some space.
P.s if your only interested in sex, shes probably not the one for you. think about it like this: do i want to spend every second of every day with this girl, but never "do" any thing with her?
^^if your answer was yes... marry her.
if it was no...rethink you wedding!
2007-12-31 12:42:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
who cares if your family likes her, they dont have to spend every waking minute with the psycho. and if you are having doubts why would you go ahead and set a date for the wedding. if you dont like how she is now, you shouldnt waste your time or money getting married because i promise you she will not change. It sounds like she just wants a ring on her finger. the jealous is only going to get worse and she doesnt want you to be online- which means she is already trying to control you. you have to beg for sex? that is wrong. if she loves you she should want to have sex with you. i say get a new job, break it to your family gently and find someone that you want to be with. you should be getting married because you got pressured into it.
2007-12-31 12:42:13 · answer #6 · answered by rshshly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Frankly it doesn't sound as if you are really in love with her, and she just may want marriage but not a loving husband. You say she doesn't like sex or kissing and you do and that she apparently needs too much of your time. This won't get better after you marry, there will be even less sex and kissing. So think about that, you two may be mismatched in your desires. Looks like you already have a wedding date set, if you are feeling rushed into this, talk it over with her and voice your concerns. If you don't the marriage may not last long.
2007-12-31 12:40:56 · answer #7 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't marry her if you feel you are not going to be happy with the marriage. Don't marry her just because she is begging you to marry her and def not because your family likes her. You need to have time to yourself and explain that to her. The only way you can solve your problem is by opening up to her and I guarantee you that things will get better as long as you understand her and she understands you. Communication is key. and I know sometimes its hard to open up or to even phrase things so that the other person doesnt get the wrong idea but you need to speak up.
2007-12-31 12:39:33 · answer #8 · answered by DatDrMaHeLuvs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the hell away from this freak. If she is really like this now, wait until the marriage and she will control you more than anyone EVER has. Or she will try.
2007-12-31 12:38:26 · answer #9 · answered by psycho magnet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Got that divorce. Babe ... guess now you don't need her! ha ha ha !!!
2007-12-31 12:37:56 · answer #10 · answered by lilly l 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋