is it right to take his girlfreind that he loves very much and for him not to see her for a week or talk to her on the phone
2007-12-31 03:25:25 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Are you the parent or the child? Act like a parent.
2007-12-31 03:28:28 · answer #1 · answered by writerdog_99 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
What is a 12 year old boy doing with a steady girlfriend? That is much too young. I didn't allow my boys to date until they were 16.
However, to answer your question, there is absolutely nothing wrong with cutting off his contact with her for a week or so, if that's what you choose. It's not going to scar him permanently.
2007-12-31 14:02:39 · answer #2 · answered by rlb1961 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At that age, they will break up the next day or week. It won't last! Give him something like no TV or no video games! No 12 year old really has a girlfriend or boyfriend!
2007-12-31 11:40:58 · answer #3 · answered by gossip_palms 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, any punishment rendered needs to fit the offense. Taking away something they value for a prescribed time period is a usual tactic, but it's difficult to take away a friendship (in theory) because you've shackled yourself with the burden of enforcement that is almost impossible to realize. And, unless she was somehow complicit in whatever he did to get into trouble in the first place, it may be unreasonably harsh. (Of course, even if it is too harsh one week isn't going to kill him, but you don't want the cure to any situation to be worse than the original problem. This penalty may cause him to act out even more.) Maybe a more equitable solution would be to suspend phone, TV, or computer privileges for the week instead.
2007-12-31 11:34:56 · answer #4 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 12 he should not have a girlfriend.
At 12 he does not love her very much, he isn't mature enough to know what love is. He loves the way he feels when he is around her.
Punishment or no, he needs to spend time away from her and develop his own resources.
A lot of parents would think that just because they have this inappropriate relationship, they should not be allowed to see each other or talk on the phone. I'm not even saying that; I'm just saying not to let them spend so much time together.
And explain to them that at 12, they are not to hold hands, let alone cuddle or kiss. They are too young.
2007-12-31 11:34:45 · answer #5 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, why is he dating or having girlfriend at 12 years!
I take that privilege away all together.
What's next sex....and then what you're going to take away his condoms as a punishment?
2007-12-31 11:34:08 · answer #6 · answered by Xena77 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sure is early fr him to have a girl friend...I don't think however that is a good punishment idea- it could turn him into a rebel!
instead, try something else like shifting his bedtime to an hour earlier than usual- i know that works!
2007-12-31 11:33:58 · answer #7 · answered by friendlymom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think if you do that they can end up for ever ! What if his girl askes him why didnt you call me and if he says i was punished shes not going to belive it
2007-12-31 11:33:06 · answer #8 · answered by duh!!!!!!!!!! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. It's a bad idea to use the girl as a pawn in punishing him. Ground him but keep his girlfriend out of the equation. Unless she caused the problems, using her as punishment is a horrible idea. Grounding him implies that he can't see her but by saying "Because you were bad, I am taking Jane away from you" is bringing her into your disagreement and that is not fair to the girl.
2007-12-31 11:32:42 · answer #9 · answered by CAITLIN 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
that was the only punishment that hurt my son. taking away something he loved for 1 or 2 weeks. usually though he would try to talk his way out of it. once i sent him to his room. he knew it was over until he learned to respect.. it does work. its hard as they grow older.
2007-12-31 11:31:55 · answer #10 · answered by Valentine 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋