Okay, so i finally have to admit i'm obsessed with one of my ex. We dated for a summer back in 2002 and then i had to break it off because i went to college almost 8 hours away. But when we were together i never felt more happy; like she actually understood me
So i know it broke her heart, but it had to be done.
Over the following few years i would see her maybe once every few months and all those feelings would come rushing back. However, we never could get together like back before.
So then i move back home, well closer at least. I live in the City now and she is still out in the burbs. Im done with school now and working full time as is she(more or less). Now things like myspace have come out and i get to see her and she's gotten even more beautiful. Alas, she never responds back to me when i ask her out (she never says no either)
what can i do? I did date one of her quasi-friends a few years back, that prob pissed her off. But she never is mean or turns me down. Any ideas?
2007-12-31 00:54:27 · 14 answers · asked by Nooka 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I also dated many girls between the time she and i dated and the present, both long and short term. Yet i find myself fantacizing and daydreaming about this girl DAILY! And i havent seen her in at least a year or too. Is this healthy? What can i do? Is she just being nice to me and won't flat out say she isnt interested? Do i still have a chance?
2007-12-31 00:55:53 · update #1
I have confronted her about it but i nver get anything out of her. Then again, she doesnt block my calls, comments, messages either so i dont get it. Its like if she didnt want anything to do with me, why does she still listen?
2007-12-31 01:04:29 · update #2
Why are you asking her out & not actually taking her out? Sounds to me like you are playing a game. Eventually, she will tire of you asking & not following through. You have the answer to your own question. Now one back at ya! - Why are you scared to take it further?
2007-12-31 01:02:55 · answer #1 · answered by T. 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you can do anything you set your mind to. you seem like a very sincere person, I'm sure she'll come to her senses and she what an amazing person you are and how sorry you are for ever letting her go. good luck and go get your girl back tiger!
2007-12-31 13:26:36 · answer #2 · answered by Jordi* 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell her what you just told us ... she probably was hurt ..and probably pissed that you dated her friend ... hurt can be gotten over ...but forgetting is another thing ..just ask her back once and for all ..if she says no ..least then you know .. good luck .
2007-12-31 09:41:40 · answer #3 · answered by autumn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want her back u have to let her kno that u r sorry for breaking her heart and that you want her back. Turst me it is easier to just come out and say it and risk getting hurt than beating around the bush. Best of luck
2007-12-31 09:17:43 · answer #4 · answered by vw chick 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
please dont torture her with ure constant calls...she clearly deserves to be treated better than u have done and she knows it but she loves u too much to be rude to you..dont make it difficult for her
2007-12-31 09:14:33 · answer #5 · answered by Pisces 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
always there is a chance , but one time you are back .. how secure and strong is the relation ?
2007-12-31 09:08:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you may be over idealizing this relationship. It's been about 5 years & I'm sure that a good chunk of your fasination is that she's a case of "the grass is always greener". If she really wanted to date you she'd have contacted you back. You say that you've contacted her for dates & she never responds back. Maybe she hasn't physically said no, but that's just as good as a no. She doesn't want to date you again for whatever her reasons are.
Get a therapist & move on.
EDIT:
You continuously call her, IM her, & myspace her, yet she never responds? You are now officially a stalker. She's trying to be nice & not get the police involved, thus giving you a criminal record. Take this gift & get that nice therapist I suggested. She doesn't want to date you at all anymore. Do not call her or try to contact her again. If she wants you, she knows where to find you. Since she hasn't tried to find you, take the hint.
2007-12-31 09:06:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is playing hard to get with no definite response to your asking her out. Go and see her face to face and ask her if she would like go see a movie, dinner, ice cream, walk in the park, just sit and talk, anything. BE A MAN and go talk to her.
2007-12-31 09:02:16 · answer #8 · answered by psycho magnet 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go and see her and do something romantic but NOT EMBARRASSING to her. u culd get her back if you try especially if she felt the same way that you did about your relationship.
good luck
2007-12-31 09:01:24 · answer #9 · answered by Dizzee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a man! Be upfront and honest with her about your feelings and the reasons you broke off the relationship. There's a good chance that she still has feelings for you and is holding back for fear of being hurt again. Don't be a dunce...this woman wants you and just wants to know that you want her the same way. The kind of attraction and relationship that you've alluded to in your question is rare...go for it!
2007-12-31 09:01:01 · answer #10 · answered by Mike 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋