I have a 2 1/2 year old and don't know a ton about children's behavior but my best friend's son is 4, about to turn 5 in February, and just seems to have such bratty behavior at times. I'm trying to be understanding but it's just a little too much I think. I never acted like this out in public but the past two times he's been to my house, he has told me or my husband things like "Get out of here!" over and over or "I'll spank you if you don't get out of here!" "I'm staying here, you go in the other room" "Don't watch me eat!" "I don't like that smell and I can't eat!". I know kids are kids but I never dare said that to my mom's friends when I was a kid. Is this really bratty behavior or just typical for kids this age to say to anyone?
2007-12-31 00:54:07 · 9 answers · asked by Ryan 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
He was in daycare but now in preschool.
2007-12-31 02:02:40 · update #1
meek - i totally agree. she doesn't do much. i know it's the parents fault but i think it is just so rude and easy to see that it's bratty.
2007-12-31 02:03:47 · update #2
I wouldn't even call this bratty behavior that's no home training. That comes from your best friend letting him do that and say what he wants. Letting him have his way. If he is talking to you like that then you know its probably worse with her. He has no respect for adults. I've seen this before out in public and the parents were smiling like it was alright. That is not cool nor cute. She's going to catch it when he enters school if she don't get a grip and get a grip fast. Watch your child cause they do pick up behaviors from other kids.
2007-12-31 01:21:44 · answer #1 · answered by meek 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well personally, he needs a spanking! I have a child the same age, and she acts out sometimes, but I correct her right then and there, not later, and she changes her ways! It starts at home, if the mom and dad tolerate that kind of behavior, then the child won't think it's wrong to do or say these things!
2007-12-31 01:35:00 · answer #2 · answered by kay-kay 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like hes repeating what he hears they only know what they live.
2007-12-31 01:29:56 · answer #3 · answered by shellya 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously his mom lets him get away with it so he's convinced it's normal. You need to talk and say to him when you're in my house you will not speak like that. Kids do as they see not as they're told. He probably picked these phrases up from good old mom and dad.
2007-12-31 01:28:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like a learned behavior. It would definitely bother me too, but I wouldn't blame the child. Someone is feeding this to him, how sad.
2007-12-31 01:28:14 · answer #5 · answered by Mariah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that's a sign of how he is talked to by one or both of his parents in addition to watching someone talk like that on regular basis. Please note that it is very hard to not think everyone elses kids are brats. But in this case, it's more about how he is being raised and what's he is being exposed to.
2007-12-31 01:18:54 · answer #6 · answered by Amy 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's not typical for any child of that age to say things like that to anyone. My children were taught to respect their elders and to be polite, and as a result they learned not to speak to adults in such a tone (my children are generally well-behaved anyway, so it wasn't something we had a big problem with). Don't blame the little boy though -- little boys and girls will test the boundaries wherever they can. The blame lays squarely at the feet of your best friend and his/her spouse for not taking any action to correct this behavior.
Many people make the mistake of blaming children for being "little monsters," thinking there must be something wrong with the child that makes them that way. Not true. Parents who fail to discipline their children are the problem at least 99% of the time (or better). Children behave the way they behave because they don't know any better. It's the job of the parent to teach them what is acceptable and what isn't, and the parent must also understand that children don't really have a capacity for reason until around age 7 or 8, so when they're young you have to set down the rules, take action when the rules are broken, and if the rules are questioned the answer should be "Because I said so."
2007-12-31 01:10:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
sounds like hes hearing it from a parent or someone to me, does he go to daycare? my sister in law used to work in daycares and she said there are some horrible kids out there, maybe he picked it up there!
2007-12-31 01:08:58 · answer #8 · answered by Rami S 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
For the mother iam sure its normal behavior- thats why he does it.
For you and me and people who believe in training their children up into polite functional members of society its NOT okay behvaior.
Its normal for kids that age to TRY those things, but not normal for them to continue in it, the mothers missing something obviously.
2007-12-31 01:00:02 · answer #9 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋