Searching for understanding on why things are the way they are?

Question

Please don't judge me for being honest, just trying to understand. What is my reason for being on earth if my life is filled with weakness and sorrow? Up and down, up and down day after day. I see other children of God blessed who He has helped and they are spoiled rotten because He has helped them! Don't say God loves me because I don't want to hear it anymore. It was a joke when He created me. I reach out to Him for help, talk to Him daily but He never talks back but gives me nothing but silence. What kind of relationship is this between a Father and a son who is in need? Is His glory and honor more important then His very own children reaching out to Him (speaking humble)? Is it our fault we were put here on earth born in sin? All I ever wanted was a Father who cares for me and to help me get through this life. I know I have a bad image of God but what can one do if he feels God has left him on his own in this world of darkness? My wife wants to divorce me, THANK YOU GOD!!!

Answer 1

I don't know you or what you are going through, but is it possible you have more than you think you do? Maybe you aren't rich, but you obviously have enough money for a luxery like a computer. You probably have more food in your pantry than most people in little starving villages. You may be getting divorced, but who's to say that you won't reconcile, or that you won't find somebody else, someone even better? My husband used to talk like "oh my life is so awful" because he is 35 years old, doesn't make much money, we're always broke, doesn't own his own home yet, etc. When we found out we couldn't have children he about lost it, got so mad at God, but I pointed out the upside, all the reasons pets are better than children! (no college funds for instance...and they never run off to Vegas with a boy you hate.)
So I am saying two things. 1-- your life is probably alot better than you realize and 2-- who's to say it won't get even better?

Answer 2

You said it yourself - he never talks back and there is nothing but silence. The christians will tell you to pray some more, perhaps God's answer is "not yet", others tell you to have more faith. That is a load of CRAP.

You need to pull your socks up and start making your OWN changes. There is a verse in the bible (cant beleive I am saying this) that says God helps those who help themselves.

Actually God does nothing, but once you do make that first step to being independent, and making the changes you need to make, help will become available for you to continue the journey.

Our bad & sad lives are a direct result of the choices we made (or didnt make), so we have only ourselves to blame. We cant blame god, we cant blame the devil, and we cant blame everyone else. They were our choices to make or not make, and we have to change things ourselves, or continue to pay the price.

Answer 3

I don't think it's god's fault for this matter. No one can prove if god exist or not, so that's out of question here. You just want a scapegoat and you can't find it, so you blame god. It's lot easier to find someone else to throw your anger at, I understand that feeling...but I know deep in your heart, you know this isn't right.

Have you tried to face your wife and tried to fix what you have done wrong? I'm sure she has told you and maybe that just didn't get through to you. I'm not saying it's all your fault...I'm sure she has some part in this too.

Then why not ask her for help? Ask her what you can do to keep her? Tell her how much you love her with all your heart. I don't know if she has "decided" or just "want" divorce at this time. If it's "decided", it would be really hard to get her heart back. I won't say it's impossible, but it would be super hard and you could lose her with high possibility.

If just "want"...it's her sign for her help. She's screaming for your help because she's not happy with you for some reasons. Ask her what's wrong, say you change for good and try hard to make her happy. It's bit more easier than "decided" but you should still try real hard to keep her since her heart has started to leave or middle of leaving you.

If you truly love her, hang on to her with all your life!

I hope things will get better for you. Take care and good luck!

Answer 4

here is the thing, you are responsible for your life. The real GOD has given you eternal life, you have more chances to make your life a positive in goodness. If you give up on yourself you are setting your energy for next life also, if you chose positive goodness energy ,you will grow towards the real GOD. I believe that 100%. I had a bad deal when i was young,my wife divorced me after 18 years of marriage, 18 years later after self torture, i am applying this energy. It took a lot of work and now i am married again and will have a child in 2008,i am in complete love and shock. I believe our choices are our judgement , what i chose will make my next life because the real GOD is only good and he wants you to know the beauty of the ultimate love but you have to find the real GOD and love him. I have found the real GOD @ frugpogoen in yahoo groups.

Answer 5

Garden man I don't know why God is letting you go threw this but I can tell you that I went threw the same experience 35 years ago. I cursed God and blamed him. years went buy then married girl I got pregnant had a couple more kids and left her. Than a number of years latter married a Christian woman. Well it took a number of years with this wife until I was destroying this marriage. She asked me to pray with her and I got down on my knees and she prayed for a long time. She prayed for the children and our marriage. Well that week the Lord answered her every prayer. I was age 48 when I came to know Jesus Christ. Sometimes my brother he doesn't answer our prayers the way we want. today I can say thank God, but there was a time I cursed him and it still breaks my heart. he has forgiven me and that is what is most important. God bless you and I will pray for you.

Answer 6

Sounds to me like you need to re-think your spiritual path, and your beliefs. I too was frustrated with Christianity in the same ways you are. I too found God to be silent and uncomforting through my darkness, including my divorce. I left the Christian Church and started reading and studying other religions, other beliefs. I am much more secure in God's love for me now that I don't believe in the "God" I believed in as a child. I find that I am more secure, more at peace, and feel more loved now that I have searched and found my spiritual path for myself.
The best way to do this is to start reading. Not just books on other religions, but on beliefs that are not part of any organized religion. Read things out of the religion section, but also from the occult and majick section. Some of it will make you laugh out loud - this is not for you. When you read something, and it makes you feel all warm inside, like you've come home from a long journey, you will know you are on the right track.
It's not an easy process. But it is well worth it in the end. Plus you're already on Y!A, so you can stop here and ask questions about the various things that you read. Serious questions are answered seriously by most of us.
Good luck, May All That Is Bless You, and may your jourmey be peaceful and enlightening.
Kate

Answer 7

I'm sorry to hear about your divorce-but really i think its about time you took responsibility for your own actions. Why would your wife divorce you? God didnt make her. do you treat her right? DO you even LOVE her? Instead of being upset go and SHOW HER HOW MUCH SHE MEANS TO YOU!!
Now, sir i am not one to judge but you seem to have a low self-asteem, why do you think you are a joke, this is YOUR LIFE.
God gives us as many problems as we can handle- so in his eyes you can go through these problems, you can fail and give up or YOU CAN LEARN and become a better person. Havent you heard of the phraze everythign happens for a reason?
You feel as if your life is filled with weakness and sorrow, why? Do you try to change it? Are you positive or negative?
You see others with more than you, what do they have you want, money? A house, family? YOU can have these aswell if you try.
Now, im not saying you are no trying, and i am not meaning to sound mean, if anything i want to help you get your life together? why? i dont know why! So please dont disregard my comments as nothing, read and learn.

When you talk to God, what do you tell him? Do you ask for things? Do you thank him (your health,job, anything). Do you even pray out of routine or because you want to. No poin in praying just to say you've done it, you need to mean what you say. Also how can you expect Him to help you if you bad mouth him, and refuse for Him to HELP you!!! You say He doesnt love you! and i know thats wrong and so do you.

In the end , i just want you to see were you have gone wrong, not GOD, its easy to blame others for our mistakes, but we too need to fight for what we want and what we think is right.
DONT GIVE UP, DONT BE NEGATIVE SORT YOUR LIFE, GET YOUR WIFE BACK AND ACCEPT GOD!!

mq

Answer 8

I recommend you read the book "Conversations with God"

Honestly I don't want to sound cold hearted or bitter but srsly change you attitude. Your negativity is what brought you to the slumps your in now. Don't blaim god for the decisions you've made that didn't come out as intended. Im a farrrrrrr from religious person nd im not even sure what to believe so don't think im one of those insane religious people. All I have to say is you brought everything upon urself, god shouldn't always be there fixing things when something bad or whatever it is that's happening. How would you yourself get stronger when someone else is fixing your problems? You won't, which is the point im trying to get across.
Just have faith nd change your ways nd have positivity nd everything would work out. Im only 16 nd so far so good? Nd ur teenage times are supposed to be those I hate the world arghhh stages nd im good so take what I say in consideration =}


This is the first question I answer btw {=

Answer 9

Some vessels were created for honor, and others were not. It's really not all about us. As for the silence from God, I have found that most times if one just remains silent themselves, that still small voice will be heard loud and clear above the din of our own selfishness and stubborness. At those times in this life when it seemed God was impossibly far away were exactly the moments when, after I calmed down and acted sensible, I realized He was so close I couldn't "see" Him. Talk about not being able to see the forest for the trees. As for your wife, I don't obviously know what is going on there, but if she wants a divorce then maybe it's time for you to do a little of that listening with her I was just talking about. God is not to blame for your shortcomings and errors in your public and private life.

Answer 10

Why are you blaming God for things that satan has done to you, In the beginning it was intended for a man & woman to be Husband & wife without a divorce, It was the things of satan that causes divorce, & you ask why don't God talk to you, Friend, why not you talk to him & trust him, It seems like when you ask God something & you don't hear an audioable voice, that you think God has left you, God said he will never leave a True Christain, Your attitude toward God, will never get you any kind of answers, So where does the real problem lay at, it is NOT with God, but your attitude towards God because satan has done so many things to you, ask your self why do your wife want a divorce, maybe it could be your attitude, Remember one thing, God has never left anyone, if there is any leaving, it is you that have not trusted God, & satan has put bitterness in you that eats at you like cancer.

Answer 11

You are being Attacked by satan.

GOD Almighty IS NOT against you at all.

satan is trying to blind you, to make you Think that GOD is your problem.
GOD is not your problem.
satan is.


Learn How to Fight satan.
Learn How to Walk in Faith (so GOD can Bless you too!!!)
Learn How to RECIEVE from GOD

GOD is not a Respector of People.
HE will do the Same Stuff for EveryOne.

BUT, sometimes it Seems like HE is Blessing some of HIS Kids more than HIS Other Kids, but that Isn't the Way HE Works.
See, if Some of GOD's Kids are getting Blessed more than you, then YOU need to Learn How to Walk in Faith TOO!!!
See?

If you Learn How to Walk in Faith then GOD Almighty can Bless YOU a Whole Lot More!!!

Sometimes Children of GOD Learn Something about Walking in Faith and Help GOD Bless themselves BUT they Have'nt Learned Much about Walking in LOVE so they get Selfish and Don't Tell EveryBody Else (Children of GOD) About What They Learned!!!

Kids! Gotta' Love'm!!!

GOD Loves You!
Jesus Loves You!

This is What Helped Me Learn These Things:

Kenneth Copeland Ministries
Fort Worth, Texas

Kenneth and his wife Gloria are EXCELLENT Teachers of How to Walk in Faith---to Help GOD Bless YOU, and How to Walk in Love--so you can Help Other Children of GOD, So They Can Get Blessed too.

Like I just Helped You!!!

So Be It!
Learn How to FFFIIIIIIGGGGHHHHTTTTT!!!
satan

your Welcome.

p.s (I Prayed for ya too! In The Name of Jesus!)