LIke i said previously
im 14 im on a whole lot of medication and i have a couple weeks - months to actually live.
and im not afraid of dying really, im honestly just afraid of what ill miss and not having enough time to figure out what i want to do.
but im not the problem..
its my best friend she is really scared for me and strongly believes ill be Fine and a miracle will happen. well i just found out today i wont be fine after all and like i said my time is cut down short. i feel like i am ruining her life and i hate it.
how can i tell her??
ill miss her alot and i hate to see her unhappy
so please help
or pray for her
she needs it more than me.
2007-12-30 21:51:50 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Its a very sad story. and I have no Idea how you must be feeling. even thinking about others when your situation is as dire as it gets. tell her the truth and hope she gives you the time to understand. there are all kinds of denial. but you may find (I I truly hope you do) that there is more time than you think. set aside your worries and enjoy all you have left. maybe you could show her these answers. my heart goes out to you and your family. though it seems inappropriate ..... I will end as I do my emails
Have Fun.
2007-12-31 00:20:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her to help you have a better time in the time you have left. You both need her to be positive.
2007-12-31 06:03:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
write her tons of letters, make little videos, do anything you can to let her know you loved her. Start now, she is one true friend, she deserves as many things as she can get to let her know that you loved her.
Get writing, say whats on your mind and all that....
Spend as much time as you can with her.
You are one strong person and people should look up to you for what you are doing and how you are caring for that person.
God bless you...you'll rest in peace by his side...lucky you.
2007-12-31 01:25:48 · answer #3 · answered by BGBS 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Jeez-I feel horrible for you and your friend. I am so sorry to hear of your situation. I will pray for you.
The only advice that I can think of would be to seriously, as sad as it's going to be, sit her down and bring the reality of the situation alive. Her denial is just going to make it hurt worse when something-G-d forbid-does happen, and she needs to be ready for it. Not scared, but ready to say, not goodbye, but see you later. Let her know that you will still be with her and by her side in spirit, and that she will never be alone when you're gone only from this planet. Your soul and love for her will never die, even if your physical self should go. Let her know that it also makes this harder on you because you worry so much about her and that now is the time for you both to be spending your days together living life to its fullest. If you really don't have much time left, now is the time for the both of you to be doing things that will create wonderful and fulfilling memories together to carry over with you and leave with her.
Take lots of pictures together and have as much laughter and joy together as possible. If it is your time, one day it shall be hers too. Then you two will be reunited again, and that is just how it must be, as sad as it is.
It will be hard for everyone that loves you, but denial will make it more unbearable than it already will be.
I suddenly lost my best friend 5 days after his birthday. I can still remember smelling him, dreaming of him as if he were really there(which I'm positive he was in spirit form), and feeling his strong presence for a very long time after his death. You're not going away in all forms. Just your physical form. Just remind her of this and instill in her heart that you will never leave her side, even though it feels that way. Evry time she looks for you, there you will be-protecting her and loving her. You will now be her angel and guiding light.
I really don't know what more to tell her. I just know that that is the way I began to be able to cope with the loss of someone that was so close to me.
I truly wish you both the best and pray for you both to have an easy journey in what life-and the after life-will bring to each of you in these times of need.
Just remember to live your now together to the fullest so that there are no regrets when it comes to a halt. I wish you both the best of luck.
2007-12-30 22:44:55 · answer #4 · answered by Bellaruse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no honey all she needs is you, and you arnt letting you or her down take notes on the advise, she is stronger than you give her credit for. talk to her tell her and let her tell you thats what is is about, dont let it distroy you by over thinking it it is what is is it is her coping mechenisum sorry for the spelling, just be her friend thats all she asks of you and at the moment you are so concerned for her and you thats not what you are! there will be people to support her through what ever is ahed trust us babe live for now not what might be
2007-12-30 22:23:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
theres not much anyone could say to your friend to help her but perhaps a written message or video or audio clip to be played after the fact would be beneficial.
2007-12-30 22:16:47 · answer #6 · answered by dogomias 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This situation is probably very hard on your friend, she fears losing you. You seem to have come to terms with the inevitable but she hasn't yet, and doesn't want to. You should spend time with her and talk and cry together. Let her know that this is happening and you need her to accept it and to let her know you love her and will live on forever in her heart.
Also, if you are religious at all or believe in God or the Bible, there is hope. God promises a time in the future when there will be no more sickness or death, and that those who have passed away in death will be resurrected. Your friend does not want to lose you forever, but she doesn't have to. You will be together again.
2007-12-30 22:11:39 · answer #7 · answered by deelite150 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Amy, It sounds like you have some hard stuff to deal with and to be very honest I cannot imagine what it woud be like to be in your shoes. You sound brave and strong and I hope you have a lot of love around you, because you are such a loving and kind person.
Maybe what your friend is feeling is 'denial'. People make a lot of jokes about this, but it's very real. It is a way people have of coping with something they cannot really comprehend, something that is too big to face easily.
I have looked up some links that might be helpful for your friend ~ they are below.
The first link has a section which is called "Looking After Yourself When a Friend has a Life Threatening Illness" and another called "Supporting a Friend with a Life Threatening Illness", so it might be a very good place to start.
Hopefully, she can find the help she needs there, and can be strong for you in the time to come.
Best wishes to you, Amy.
2007-12-30 22:07:03 · answer #8 · answered by thing55000 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
reassure her wholeheartedly that you are at peace with it, and tell hr why. I think it's wonderful that you are. Be completely frank with her and spend as much time with her as possible. Do not hide anything from her. Share your view and try to make her understand that there is nothing to be afraid of. She will be grived, that's inevitable, and you acn't take that away, but you can help her to be at peace with your situation.
God bless :)
2007-12-30 22:01:46 · answer #9 · answered by Rosie K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I will definitely pray for you both... Now I'm sad! You have to understand where your friend is coming from. How would you feel if it was vice versa and you were losing your best friend? Tell her what you would need to hear.
To be honest..I'm hoping for a miracle also...
2007-12-30 21:59:37 · answer #10 · answered by ~Nu Nu~ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋