I'm the oldest of four in my family, and basically, the family loser. My parents are still supporting me, and I'm still trying to decide what to do with my life. My sister is in grad school and is doing everything right, and my parents are well-off professionals who have always been successful. It's hard to get everything in order, partly because of me, but also because I feel like they're used to me in this role now, and don't think I would be good at anything. I kind of agree with them, because I haven't really been very good at anything in the past. I feel inferior to everyone in my family, but also to people in general. Should I just stop whining, and improve myself so I don't feel like this? Also, since I'm 27 and have been like this as long as I can remember, do you think I'll have this complex forever? If so, I'm prepared to just accept it and move on (which I've kind of already done). Thanks.
2007-12-30
20:42:38
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Another thing is that whenever we discuss "my future" or some other heavy BS like that, my dad will say things like "You're not good at X" or "X isn't going to work out", and I hear the same things literally over and over. He also tells me all the time how my problems are affecting him, and I feel like he's just using me to let off steam. I think sometimes he's really talking to himself when I'm there, because when I say something or cut him off, he'll keep going. And he also brings up things that happened in the past that frustrated him, like when I dropped out of college (I'm right now about to go back, and I just wasn't ready when I was younger, which happens to lots of people). I think he feels like some kind of failure for the way I turned out. What should I do about this?
2007-12-31
06:21:16 ·
update #1