i just started dating this guy a little over a month ago. we get along SOO well!! were constantly together, an when were not, were on the phone. BUT i keep hearing bad things about him, like..hes cheated on every girl hes ever dated an blah blah blah. he just seems so great tho, is it possible 2 change him an make him not cheat on me if its true?? if so, what can i do 2 make sure it doesnt happen cuz im REALLY into him
2007-12-30 20:10:48 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
why do girls think that they are "the one that can make him change"???
all that's gonna happen is you're gonna get hurt
2007-12-30 20:41:49 · answer #1 · answered by Stats C (unbiased analysis) 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You're "into" him because of the "Bad Boy" syndrome. (Google it...)
Already, you want to "change" him, and make him something to do, a hobby. You want him to "change" you?
Maybe you are not ready to date.
Maybe you need to understand more about what should be attractive features in a person.
Answer: Why waste your time trying to change someone, and on top of all that - you've known him a month? NO!
2007-12-30 21:46:44 · answer #2 · answered by geeksball 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You cannot change him. Once a cheater, he will always be. But you just can't believe what others will say. Stay only as friends. If you yourself caught him cheating or lying, then you can probably say that other people are right when they say negative things about him. Sometimes, two people are better as friends only.
2007-12-30 21:08:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No B/c if he cheats on you let em go the other person may think o he love me or whatever but if he cheat on you hes more than likely to cheat on her let me tell you something someone once told me for advice to give 2 someone if theyy cheat or treats someone wronge just let them go, let em go b/c once they leave they will realize what they are missing
2007-12-30 20:33:24 · answer #4 · answered by Vance 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
**** that **** man!
2007-12-30 20:27:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's stupid is when people say, "Once a cheater, always a cheater." Which is like saying, "Once a loser, always a loser."
People who cheat are frowned upon. Some do it for a reason, others do it due to impulses and their inability to commit. In my experience; I have cheated once in the past but what's strange is that it was an open relationship and my past-partner got upset over it. He was like some demented-twisted sick f**k that nobody really likes... the only people he can gather are people in chat rooms. Pretty pathetic if you ask me.
Anyways; you might be hearing rumors. If you're really into him you have to talk to him about it. It's best to keep your guard up and see what kind of person he is. Communication is always best... but since you've dated him for about a month I can sense that he may tell little white lies... or bigger.
Don't dive into him whole, keep your guard up... and when you see his true colors, you'll decide wither if you can change him or not. Because people truly change people when they're not even trying.
:) Cheers
2007-12-30 20:23:38 · answer #6 · answered by Raax 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well there are cases where that can happen but that chance would be very slim besides only he can change himself.
what i would totally suggest however is that u talk to him face to face and not get THAT close with him until u are 100% sure hes going to be faithful to u
2007-12-30 20:22:58 · answer #7 · answered by SouthParkRocks 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't know if you can change a cheater but let me tell you how I am. I never feel comfortable having sex with somebody whon I don't love, and till now I haven't falled in love. That means I am a virgin, and I am 21, never smoked and never let even a single drop of alcohol touch my lips. Don't know what makes me so stern. No matter whom I met, whatever kind of girl I met, and however she breaks my heart, I will never cheat. If stressed too much I will break up with her and find somebody else but will never cheat. Thats not in my blood. What does this tell you? You can't change a person's inner heart. You can change him a little bit but not completely. If he is a cheater by heart, you can't.
2007-12-30 20:18:51 · answer #8 · answered by virgin_guy 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
can you chage a leopards stripes?
2007-12-30 20:17:14 · answer #9 · answered by Cool Chic 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not think you should listen to ppl i think you should ask him for yourself. Also you cannot change a person they HAVE TO want to change themselves. Have a serious convo with him and ask him where he stands. Yes he can lie to you but you can only go with what your heart and mind tell you.
2007-12-30 20:16:43 · answer #10 · answered by Wizdom 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
A cheater can only change him/herself.
2007-12-30 20:14:15 · answer #11 · answered by I.P. F 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋