I'm dating this girl. She's great. she's smart, beautiful, funny and is alot of fun to be around. Problem is, she has all guy friends. And these guys are all up in the kool-aid. She's also friends with all of her ex boyfriends. They keep calling her to hang out and she goes out with these dudes without me. She says "there just friends." Am I just trippin on this for nothing or should I be alarmed?
2007-12-30 18:30:22 · 10 answers · asked by tightlawmd 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have TONS of guy friends and always have. You probably have nothing to worry about except you should have a problem with her hanging out with her ex's. Screw that-that could end up in a bad situation one lonely night if you are not around. Build your self-confidence and most importantly be friends with her buddies. Go hang out with them all with her as much as you can, get to know them. If she starts to have a problem with that, there may be more to the story.....
2007-12-30 18:35:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should be alarmed. I had a girlfriend once and I tried to play it cool when she casually emailed her ex-boyfriend once in a while. Our two year relationship ended abruptly with no closure when she decided to go back with her ex. He's a lawyer now and makes more money than me...that was the end of that. I never saw it coming either. I never thought she would be the type to do this. Women lie to themselves all of the time.
2007-12-30 18:37:50 · answer #2 · answered by Johnny on the Spot 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say ur trippin and I think it depends on the type of female you're dating and whether or not you trust her--and her guy friends.
"Just a Friend" could turn into a "one-night" or "benefit" real quick. Old feelings could get stirred up messin w/ an ex. But I guess it boils down to trust; and if you trust her, your girlfriend trusts herself and she trusts the guys she's chillin with to not make moves, then u shouldn't have to worry.
Also, if you are worried, y'all prob need to address that. Be careful too tho, b/c you don't want her to think you don't trust her!
2007-12-30 18:53:35 · answer #3 · answered by ncchic05 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously she still has feelings for these ex's, because it's pretty hard to maintain only a friendship with and ex after a breakup. Even if this girl isn't fooling around behind your back (which she most likely is), she's definately toying around with a lot of unresolved feelings, and that my friend, is dangerous. If you want a serious relationship with this girl, she's going to have to understand that you aren't comfortable with her ex friends and explain to her why. If she isn't willing to accept that, then there is undoubtably hidden feelings on her part and your best bet is to move on.
2007-12-30 18:39:03 · answer #4 · answered by rush_girl150 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how you feel about it. If she cares about you, she should try to do something to compromise. She is allowed to have her friends, but there should be a limit in behavior that you guys should agree on that she shouldn't cross. She may think they're all just guy friends, but she's not single anymore and she should respect some boundaries. Also, she should be okay with bringing you along to get to know her friends as well. If she hesitates at that, there might be something going on.
2007-12-30 18:35:22 · answer #5 · answered by Jxdy11 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a grip of guy friends but I can maintain a relationship nonetheless. Just be cool with them and everything will be fine.
2007-12-30 18:34:36 · answer #6 · answered by 1M9 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're over-reacting. She's allowed to have friends of any gender, get with the 21st century.
2007-12-30 18:34:49 · answer #7 · answered by Eiliat 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
dam dude...uhhh...i dont wanna give u any ideas but do u think theres a possibility that she could be a player.....
2007-12-30 18:34:18 · answer #8 · answered by SouthParkRocks 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
be a little alarmed. but i think u should trust her.
2007-12-30 18:33:57 · answer #9 · answered by ♪♫Lynn♫♪ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2007-12-30 18:33:32 · answer #10 · answered by jemcube 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋