We live several states away from my brother and father in law. My father in law, step mil, 1/2 and step brother came out for X-mas. They went to my grandmother inlaws house stayed one night and then left to go on a family vacation. I have 2 little boys 4 and 8 yrs that they only see about once a year. They open presents with us then insisted that we watched a movie and said they were all going to bed, so we left. They came back in town yesterday and spent the day with friends. We had asked them to take a box back with them to my other brother inlaw, his wife and daughter. They called tonight to ask about the box that they had OPENED. Saying that they weren't sure it was for them and then questioning everything that was in the box. I ran out of wrapping paper and my bil said don't worry about it so I didn't wrap them. My SMIL was saying things like are you sure it's for them it would be better for such and such. My husband says Im over reacting, am I wrong for being mad?
2007-12-30 18:01:52 · 5 answers · asked by 3Xmom 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Ugh, they shouldn't have opened the box and your SMIL is out of line for butting in. I would just tell them to send it all back to you and you can wrap it and send it to the rightful people yourself. Chalk it up to a lesson learned.
Your in-laws sound rude. Be grateful they live far away. Mine are too close for comfort and they are so bad that my hubby has actually disowned his own mom and siblings. Every time I've convinced him to give them another chance they've pulled the same old drama and got disowned again. I finally realized we're better off without them. We're actually considering moving away from here to be away from their craziness and drama.
Hubby doesn't have to agree with you but he should at least be supportive and validate your feelings. Don't expect him to feel the same way but tell him you at least want him to respect the fact that you have a right to your feelings. Best of luck!
2007-12-30 18:24:49 · answer #1 · answered by MISS H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They should not have opened the box.
While you might be justified in being mad, it really won't help anyone, particularly not you. When you handed over the box, you gave up control. Did you specifically tell them not to open the box (not that you should have to)? Now you know what kind of (nosey) people they are - so if you don't want this type of thing to happen in the future, then send it in the mail, etc.
It will not do you any good to continue to be mad at them. Find it in your heart to forgive and forget. But don't completely forget in that you should bear this in mind next time a similar situation comes up.
2007-12-30 18:15:03 · answer #2 · answered by Damocles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not wrong for being mad.
But you certainly learned a lesson, didn't you?
There's nothing you can do at this point, so call the people you bought the presents for, tell them what you got them, and make sure they ask for them.
Better luck next year!
Family can be so over rated, huh?
2007-12-30 18:15:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
they should not have opened the box, you are right...
but they were nosey... what can i say? hopefully they gave the gifts to the brother in law. next time, mail his present.
2007-12-30 18:26:29 · answer #4 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be annoyed. if your certain they heard you say its not for them , then i'd be mad. dont forget the rule of war though, pick your battles wisley.
2007-12-30 18:17:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋