We have a 'new' family member who keeps sending cards & gifts for appropriate occasions, but she always signs them as from her spouse's name & her name. . .never by his relation. This is on my last nerve. Everyone thinks I am over-reacting about the situation and think I should just be 'grateful' they are sending cards.
Am I over-reacting? How to deal with it to them as when I broached the subject with both my spouse, and the relative that is her spouse I was blown off. I just get so irked because my children are not to call this person by name but title.
Thanks!
2007-12-30 17:27:19 · 20 answers · asked by flhomeschoolers 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Okay I guess I should have been a little more clear. Instead of her signing things from Grandpa & her she signs it with his first name. My kids don't know him by his first name - nor do I want them to call Grandpa anything but Grandpa. I did tell Grandpa that I thought she needed to sign these cards correctly and he just said he was glad she sent the cards and he didn't have to fuss with it.
2007-12-30 17:56:31 · update #1
I'd just be thankful that she remembered the occasion......she probably doesn't think of him as "Grandpa",.....she probably thinks of him as "John, or Bob", or whatever his name is. I do think you are overreacting.
2007-12-31 00:19:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Every person have their own personality and individuality that makes them act the way they do. You are waisting your energy on something that should not be your concern at all. She (whoever she is is) has the right to sign the cards, she is nice enough to send, anyway she wants. You sign your cards your way and no one should tell you how to do it. PS. You do not seem to like this person very much and your kids can sense it. It would not make any difference how she signs the card, the children copy your attitude toward her.
2007-12-31 01:48:52 · answer #2 · answered by dori 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You're so totally over reacting. I wouldn't care how a person signed a card, for crying out loud its the thought that counts. Be glad you got a card or gift at all. Jeeeeeez! Damn if something that stupid makes you get so irked, I'd hate to see what happens when she really does something to piss you off.
2007-12-31 01:33:22 · answer #3 · answered by whatchagonnado 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
So, just to be clear, you're mad because she is signing like "bob and jane" instead of "uncle bob and aunt jane?" If that's it, you are over-reacting. It's etiquette enough that they actually send cards in these days. It's not a big deal, and it is your obligation to teach your children how to address them, not their responsibility to walk on eggshells in order to not offend you and sign appropriately for your children.
2007-12-31 01:34:04 · answer #4 · answered by Lindsey 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have just decided not to like this person, and are looking for reasons to be irritated by her. Life is too short for that. Just tell them, that for the sake of teaching your children respect for Elders, you would like her to be addressed by her title in their presence, and when they are not present, let it go. This person is going to be in your family, you may as well be pleasant...besides you may find that you like her once you get to know her better...if you are willing to give her a real shot.
2007-12-31 01:44:34 · answer #5 · answered by missbeans 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you are really over reacting. Are you sure you might just not like this lady? It's not like your kids are going to get so confused by these cards that they will start calling their Grandpa, "Bob", or something like that. Just explain to your kids that it is his first name but continue to call him Grandpa in person. I guess I don't see the problem at all. This seems to trivial and nit picky. Poor lady can't even send a card right.
2007-12-31 04:36:04 · answer #6 · answered by H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Isn't it also rude if they want to be addressed by their names, but you insist on addressing them by titles? Personally, I think in regard to addressing someone, you should acquiesce to that person's wishes. I suppose I could understand your frustration if this "new" family member is signing her and her spouse's first names to a gift for a 3 year old, but in the grand scheme of things, it is not a major issue. I would be appreciative that this "new" member of the family is so eager to be generous to your family.
2007-12-31 03:12:46 · answer #7 · answered by electricnachos347 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You mean you want her to sign herself Aunt and she signs her first name. No problem It is her call, not yours how she is addressed. She does not see herself as an Aunt.
2007-12-31 01:31:39 · answer #8 · answered by Nora 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well u think a different way from her remeber that so maybe she just doesn't want to use that name so u got to let her choose and it's not up to u but don't get me wrong u can still think that way but just keep it to ur self just chill a little girl
2007-12-31 01:31:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you tried telling this new person this? or talking to her spouse. if that doesn't work, ask her to refrain from sending things.
2007-12-31 01:32:01 · answer #10 · answered by blevins2147 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋