I was talking to a girl recently and she told me she was coming to see her parents on the 23rd of Dec. She told me shed call as soon as she got home. Well obviously she didnt, in fact i called her 2x's since then telling her i hoped that she was doing ok and please call me (heck i was worried i thought the plane had crashed or something). yep, no call from her. My question is this: If you are NOT interested in a guy why do some women just decide to not call anymore? At least give the decency of telling me our not interested. Am I asking to much or is this a viable concern?
2007-12-30 17:15:48 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well see thats the thing with me calling her...if ive already called her TWICE since the 23rd. 8! days is freaking long time in my book...too long in fact.
Sorry but I cant agree with the "she might be busy". If shes busy it doesnt mean she cant send me a text on my cell. Ok say that her phone is dead, if this is the case dont you think shed go out and buy a new charger? Especially if shes out of town? hmmmm :/
2007-12-30 17:30:03 · update #1
you are not asking to much if she was not interested she should have told you right from the beginning instead of wasting your time....its rude for her not to tell you but some people feel its best if they just give you the silent treatment that way they will not see how much you are hurting coz they might end up taking you back just coz they feel sorry for you...it all depends anyway
2007-12-30 17:24:23 · answer #1 · answered by hotstikss 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry to share this - but women - especially when young and in the dating scene tend to be fickle, unreliable and generally dishonest in not wanting to hurt someone's feelings and then hurting them more in the long run by not being honest. Love between two people is not a flash in the pan but a choice you make to discover each other again and again. But - it takes a certain level of maturity to understand that. Heck when I was young I dumped a poor guy the night before we were supposed to get married. At least you didn't get that far to find out - it's not working out and that she is not mature enough for a great guy like you! Give her 5-7 years and there might be a possibility. In the meantime - let her contact you next and keep your options open. There's always the possibility that there was a family emergency, death or that something happened beyond her control as well.
2007-12-30 17:21:42 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm not a girl but have been through the same thing. Luckily, not all girls are like this, but the ones who do it are usually scared to tell you they don't like you or to break up with you.
Honestly, I would just let it go and get on with your life. If she doesn't have the courage to call you and tell you anything, she doesn't have the courage to be in a serious relationship either.
In fact, it'll probably make her a little upset if seems as if it didn't even effect you. Not saying you should try and do that, but maybe she can get a taste of the way you feel now.
2007-12-30 17:22:11 · answer #3 · answered by Dan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think she probably didn't want to be honest with you, because most people have a hard time being upfront and honest because it's very forward. I agree with you though, instead of being a coward and not calling, she should have called. The funny thing about this situation is that it's usually the guy who stops calling and hopes the girl get's the hint.
2007-12-30 17:20:16 · answer #4 · answered by Evee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe something unexpected came up and she's unable to reach a phone. Or, maybe she lost her phone at the airport and doesn't have your number or a way to reach you right now. Or..... she could be trying to avoid you. Maybe she's not good at confronting someone about how she feels, especially if it's a rejection... some girls deal with that by just stopping all connections with the guy. They just can't handle telling you that they're not interested.
2007-12-30 17:20:23 · answer #5 · answered by sara 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would make sure something else isn't up. Maybe she is ill? And if she really likes you maybe she doesn't want to hurt your feelings and needs a lot of time before telling you. Or flat up, she isn't interested and doesn't want the hassel of calling you. Nope, completely viable concern, and I don't know why else a girl wouldn't call her guy. I've never had this situation, so I don't know. I would always call my guyfriend and let him know what's up.
2007-12-30 17:20:24 · answer #6 · answered by Dannielle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Either she's not interested or she's busy. Wait a few days to see if she calls back. If she doesn't, she's probably not interested. I wouldn't call her back just yet, because she may get annoyed with you. If she doesn't call back within a week, you can try calling her again out of concern, just don't sound desperate.
2007-12-30 17:19:06 · answer #7 · answered by trivkc 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is a viable concern...as a girl i feel like you should give it another day and see if she calls if she doesn't then it might be the time to let her go. if this is her way of not being interested then it just shows that she is immature and not real.
2007-12-30 17:20:05 · answer #8 · answered by RARE GEM 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not asking too much Leviatha ... it's common courtesy to let someone know you're not interested. Unfortunately, both men and women do this ... it's an easy out, and a cowardly way of ending a relationship. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off and carry on ... there's someone out there that will truly appreciate you. :)
2007-12-30 17:25:27 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Carol♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She should have at least send a text or something to say she was home safe and was not interested .
Go seek elsewhere you deserve better
Good luck
2007-12-30 17:19:13 · answer #10 · answered by Byte 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋