I find it is. Assigning a family member attractiveness is basically an off-shoot of sexual attraction based on your taste.
That's the thought of incest?
2007-12-30 17:10:03 · 20 answers · asked by Equinox 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
No! In fact, it's a compliment to your family. I have a cousin [male] and he is honestly beautiful. He just stands out. Very handsome guy and I know all the ladies will be after him. We're the same age and he protects me. We love each other like cousins do and look out for each other, but anything further than that would just be disgusting and unnatural. A lot of times family members tease each other about being handsome or pretty, too. And it's only natural for parents, most aunts and uncles, and definitely grandparents to tell children how beautiful, pretty, handsome, attractive, etc. they are. Calling them attractive doesn't mean they suit the person's personal tastes, but just conveys that the person being talked about is nice-looking. My mom is one of the prettiest women I know, and I'm sure most people feel that way about their mothers and it's because they love them so much they can't help but see the true beauty in their mom. It's out of love and care for family members that people make those types of comments. True, there are some people in this world that are a bit out-there and taking things WAY too far, but as a universal rule, "handsome" and the like are just simple but meaningful compliments. :-D
2007-12-30 19:46:02 · answer #1 · answered by MW 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That would be if you looked @ it the wrong way.
Seeing Beauty in Someone Doesn't mean Sexual Attraction, People are Beautiful/Handsome in so many levels, that's the wrong angle to look at.
My Cousin is one of the most beautiful people I've ever met.
She speaks ill of no-man/woman and has a heart of gold would save a strangers life in a heart beat, would take her own coat and give to a homeless person on the coldest night in the city & not think twice. Am I Attracted to her, NO but she is one of the most beautiful people I know.
People look at Handsome in a respectable way, strong secure etc. I wouldn't say if I had a Handsome male cousin it ment he was "a Hottie in my book' It's not that; it's the respect for the person themselves.
2007-12-30 17:22:56 · answer #2 · answered by Chef April 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is weird. When my brother is in a suit all dressed up I tell him he looks handsome. When I get dressed up for events extended family has said I am beautiful and it doesn't bother me a bit. It is a compliment. Now, calling a family member "hot" or anything like THAT might be a bit weird.
2007-12-30 17:27:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't see them in a way to judge, so yeah, I do find it a bit weird. But then my son is the most beautiful boy on the planet, and that has nothing to do with incest.
My sisters are married to good looking blokes, so they must be ok. My brothers wives are ok (for old birds!) so they must be a bit handsome.
Just kissing your mother goodbye doesn't mean you have an Oedipus complex, does it?! I suppose you can say your siblings are pretty as you are comfortable that you don't wanna bone them.
So, weird for me, but doesn't mean they are all sleeping with each other. (Unless they are from Norwich.)
2007-12-30 17:27:37 · answer #4 · answered by johnstonemac 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Indeed you are right, there is no general rule applicable as to whom we can pay compliments to. Generally between elders and youngsters yes its perfectly in order to be complimentary about aesthetics.
Being complimentary to peers and those with whom we have feelings of attractiveness is probably inadvisable. Whatever feels comfortable in a particular circumstance.
Some greater sould take compliments, ctitique and lif in their stride, whilst others, given an off the cuff 'darling' or 'beautiful'can not only become infuriatingly egostistic but misconstrue it as a gesticulation or invitaion to something further.
Incest is farmore prevalent amongst siblings than is discussed. It is generally a taboo subject, positively discussing it put those persons minds at ease, being a common occurrence. Negatively, it can evoke or sanctify the sacreligious.
The art of interpersonal skills.
Be Loved.
2007-12-30 18:16:31 · answer #5 · answered by VAndors Excelsior™ (Jeeti Johal Bhuller)™ 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Good grief, what a strange thing to say.
I think my son is very handsome, my daughter is very beautiful and my grandchildren are the cutest, most gorgeous children anywhere! My brothers are all good looking, and my sisters are quite pretty but not as pretty as me!
Are you trying to tell me I am harbouring incestuous thoughts about my family? RIDICULOUS.
2007-12-30 17:44:22 · answer #6 · answered by ☞H.Potter☜ 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Of course not. All mothers think their kids are beautiful, for instance. I can certainly tell you that my niece and nephew are nice-looking kids without wanting to take them to bed; it's an observation, not an invitation!
2007-12-30 17:17:18 · answer #7 · answered by Dances with Unicorns 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why would it be weird? It's more of a compliment and has absolutely nothing to do with attraction.
2007-12-30 17:26:39 · answer #8 · answered by Zsasha 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
are you saying that family members can not compliment you? but I CAN SEE THE OTHER SIDE!
2007-12-31 07:34:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My very first niece was born this past Friday, December 28, and she's VERY beautiful. So is my sister.
2007-12-31 04:39:09 · answer #10 · answered by brevejunkie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I tell my brother he's a good looking chap because he is... it's not to say I fancy him! Just that he has my gene pool! And when you see a baby, you say "aw, what a beautiful baby", not "cor - check her out!".
2007-12-31 01:57:03 · answer #11 · answered by floppity 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋