Parents: Do you think 18 is old enough?

Question

To decide what time to come home?

Im 18 and a girl and right now its x-mas break and I don't go back to school till the 3rd, don't you think Im old enough to decide if I should be able to stay out later with my friends who are 18 and 23 instead of rushing home around 12 or 12:30?
My friend who is 23 and a guy works at a radio station from 7 till 11:40 or 12 and we hang out with him there, sometimes he and my other friend who is also a guy go back to his apt and chill, watch tv and attempt to make food, I got to hang out with them late once but Im always the one to have to go home.
Wouldn't it make more since to hang out with them till about 1 or 130, the latest 2, which is the latest everyone goes home, instead if sitting at home miserable ?
I dont plan on doing this when I have school or every single friday, just when everyone hangs out after my friend gets off work. We usually go hang out at work with him and then go get food and go hang out at his place and he only lives 5 minutes away from me.

Since it is break, my mom and bro haven't been going to bed early and are typically up pretty late so its not like I would waking them up coming in.
My mom wants me home around 12 or 12:30, so Im home and she doesn't have to worry about me. I know she cares about me but its time to let go a little. I rather be with my friends than at home wishing I could be with them.

I know just sitting around watching tv and eating doesn't sound like that much fun, but these guys are my closest friends and time spent doing anything with them is fun. We don't drink over there, atleast not me and the other 18 year old and I don't have to worry about them taking advantage of me. The 23 year old respects women and Im just friends with the 18 year old.

So if my mom knows where ill be, who ill be with and till when, why can't I hang out with them later?

Answer 1

Well you are 18, you can do whatever you like.

I moved out of my mothers house at 17, and I am still renting in my own crib, and I can tell you it rocks.

Answer 2

In the end, it all boils down to this:

Your mom's house, your mom's rules.

I didn't necessarily enjoy following my parents curfew rules when I was 18 and staying at home, but I had to respect the rules just the same. (Though I didn't live with my parents full-time after the age of 18 - just on vacations and breaks from college. That made it a little more tolerable.)

You can try to discuss a compromise with your mother...hopefully if you can present a reasonable argument, she might compromise a little. But if you can't reach a compromise, you can choose between either playing by your mom's rules or moving out and getting your own place.

Answer 3

They who pay the bills make the rules. It's your mom's house so she decides what happens there-whether you are 8, 18, or 80 years old.

You can try talking to her about it and maybe she will change her mind. If not you can either let it go or find another place to stay while you're in town. Her house her rules.

Answer 4

If they still live in your house they should still abide by your rules

If you still live with your parents and they pay for everything you need to listen to them. If you live on your own thats your business

Answer 5

if you live in your parents' home and they say be home at a certain time, then do it.

their home, their rules... if you move out then do what you like.