My husband works long hours and is busy with his hobbies after work a lot of the time. It's not the time apart that bothers me but my reluctance to plan my own fun, just in case he's available to spend time with me. There are lots of things I'd like to be doing, but I don't, and I find myself at home, alone with my baby, waiting for things to happen, waiting for him to come home and see us. I want to live my life too. What should I do to keep a balance between us both doing our own thing, as well as getting quality time together?
2007-12-30 16:23:10 · 6 answers · asked by Kelly Lancaster 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Schedule time with him. It might sound odd but that is the only way to be sure.
2007-12-30 16:27:37 · answer #1 · answered by Meg 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to set aside some time every week, even if it's just dinner every Sunday or a walk around the neighborhood on the weekend, for the two of you and baby. Likewise, set aside at least twenty to thirty minutes a day for you to do something you like, read a magazine, watch a show you love, go for a jog ALONE. Try to set up a schedule so you're not waiting around for your husband. Let him know when you're free and when you're busy and compromise. It'll be a little bumpy in the beginning, but scheduling time for yourself will benefit you in the long run and will provide a bit of time for you to destress and enjoy yourself. Also set aside an evening for you and your husband to spend some time just the two of you. Have him figure out a time that's best for him and agree on it. Knowing that he's agreed on a time will free up all that waiting time for things you love.
2007-12-30 16:33:14 · answer #2 · answered by __Lif__ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand that he needs to have his own time with his own activities, but if you are stuck with the baby all the time that is not fair to you. You can plan some of your own fun and activities - maybe join a book group, or get a sitter and do something you would like. But, you should also talk with him about planning some time for both of you. It is perfectly reasonable to ask to try to schedule this, in balance with his hobbies. Good luck!
2007-12-30 16:32:19 · answer #3 · answered by eldots53 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he does his hobbies... have a babysitter and go out for coffee with a girlfriend.... you have the right to have fun too... it would help you be better mom and better wife...and you can still get quality time with everybody!
2007-12-30 16:31:25 · answer #4 · answered by BitterSweet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go get you a life, if he truly loves you then he will try to make time for you.
2007-12-30 16:28:39 · answer #5 · answered by Bilinda G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about it - it's your best shot.
2007-12-30 16:26:32 · answer #6 · answered by BClovis 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋