when i was 2 or 3 my parents got a divorce and the judge didnt give my dad visitation rights. my mom didnt let me know my dad until i was 14. its been about a year since i started going over his house on the weekends and i still havent called him "dad". it seems like it would be very embarrassing and akward. when would be the perfect time to first call him dad? where should the setting be? and should anyone else be around?
2007-12-30 16:17:59 · 7 answers · asked by dagokid3500 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
also he has the same name as me so i dont think calling him by his name would work either
2007-12-30 16:30:50 · update #1
It all depends on how comfortable you are with saying it. The first time you call him 'dad' is going to be awkward no matter what but he will appreciate it greatly and it will help your relationship grow. It would be best if it were in an environment where both of you were comfortable. If he took you out to dinner, a simple "Thank you, Dad" would be enough to break the ice.
2007-12-30 16:41:25 · answer #1 · answered by __Lif__ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
orginally i was my children's godfather, now stepfather. Their biological dad left in july 1999, I've been taking care of them with mom ever since. They started calling me dad at different times. None of them really remember their biological dad, but they all know i'm stepdad. They all call me daddy, even the son. 3 girls, 1 boy. 10-15 years of age. I only wanted them to call me dad when it was right for them, but i also tried very hard, still do to deserve, to be called dad. when someone says that they look like me, they smile real big!! I just say i think they all take after their mom. I'm the only person in the family with dark brown hair, every one else is blond-blond-blond, you get how blond they are. oh did i mention the blue-blue eyes?
2007-12-30 16:37:39 · answer #2 · answered by colway 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My kids have gone through their biological father marrying twice, and me re-marrying four years ago. Recently, their step-dad adopted them and is now their legal father.
Since there have been all these family extensions in their lives, I have told them that they may call these family members whatever they are calling them AS LONG AS THEY ARE NICE ABOUT IT.
They are comfortable calling added family members by their first names, even their adopted father. We are happy with that.
So, all in all, call him "dad' when and if you are comfortable with it. In the meantime, call him what you are comfortable with, as long as you're nice about it.
2007-12-30 16:27:10 · answer #3 · answered by thezaylady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call him dad when you respect him enough and feel comfortable to do so.
2007-12-30 16:34:10 · answer #4 · answered by trombonegirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whenever you feel ready i dont think there would be a specific time or place... honestly if you hang out with him and you feel comfortable enough it should slip out on day with out you having to think about it
2007-12-30 16:31:36 · answer #5 · answered by nik456 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just try to feel like your comfortable and like he doesnt care and neither do you!
2007-12-30 16:23:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should call him that when you feel he deserves it.
2007-12-30 16:23:41 · answer #7 · answered by Meg 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋