she is 18 years old. She dated a guy who she has had some fights with. Parents only found out because they barge in on her and listen to her conversations. She loves this guy, and loves her parents. Today she hung out with him, her parents found out because a friend called them after seeing her with him. They told her that if she sees him they are kicking her out. Along with some other mean things that had her crying extremely bad. Her dad went out and assaulted him, then came home and blamed her that he might have to spend the night in jail. She doesn't know what to do. I dunno how to help her, other then suggesting leaving. She doesn't want to even called breaking up with her boyfriend, but her parents do not believe her and say if she talks to him she will be on her own. Is this right? Also what should be done? any answers would be good I am worried about her. I am in no position to house her and she has nowhere to go. Please help.
2007-12-30 16:14:18 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
that is not right in ANY WAY.
her parents have no right to tell her who she can and cant love.
the heart wants what the heart wants and there is nothing that her parents can do about it. if kicking her out is their way of controling her then i would have to ask them if they have lost their freakin minds. just who do they think they are to try to make her stay away from him?
BUT if she thinks that she can make it out there on her own, i would say more power to her. they are using the fact that they provide for her over her head and that isnt anymore right than trying to control who she loves. her parents need to get a grip.
she is grown now and they have to get it thru their heads that she is not a little girl anymore and they HAVE TO GET OVER IT.
2007-12-30 18:50:16 · answer #1 · answered by ஜMallymkunஜ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, are the fights physical fights or verbal fights? It also depends on what kind of people her parents are. if they have sense then they probably do what is best for her, but if they are nuts well... My advice is that if she is 18, that means she is an adult. She has every right to leave, but as long as she lives with her parents she has to deal with it even though it isn't fair. they have the legal right to kick her out. Maybe if she went to college away from home. She could get a job and save some money to move out. She is gonna have to make big sacrifices is she wants to be with her boyfriend. She just has to make sure she really loves him or she just loves the fact that she has a boyfriend.
2007-12-30 16:26:03 · answer #2 · answered by De-De 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is 18, they have every legal right to kick her out. She shouldn't be dating someone that she fights with, that could get her hurt or killed and her parents just don't want to encourage that. Yes it does seem a bit over doing it but there is nothing that says they can't.
2007-12-30 16:20:04 · answer #3 · answered by Meg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can really do is be there for her and listen. Don't tell her to leave home. She doesn't have anywhere to go and that would put her safety and well being at risk. If her parents are generally good and she loves them, they must have a reason that they don't like the boyfriend. They have life experience and must sense from his actions that he is not good for her. She should listen to her parents. They usually want what's best for their children.
2007-12-30 16:19:31 · answer #4 · answered by true blue 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well maybe parents have a reason to dislike this person maybe he don't work or maybe they know something about him she don't know about. parents protect there kids cause they love them so don't go helping her to get your self in situations like that they must have a good reason most people when there in love there blind they don't see things the way parents do until they end up doing something stupid.By the way is this you your talking about?
2007-12-30 16:29:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
her parents house, her parents rules. she is causing her parents not to trust her. so she has to do whatever they tell her, as long as she lives in her parents house. if she doesnt like it, then she is gonna have to leave. but there is a reason why her parents are doing this. to keep her safe. your parents are going to always know more than you. they have been there and done that and they are trying to keep her safe. there is a reason why her parents dont like the boy. if he is always fighting, he needs to leave her alone. listen to the folks, best thing she can do for herself right now. she doesnt have anywhere else to do. and she could be in danger out there. but than again, my parents said the same thing. if you dont like it, get it.
2007-12-30 16:21:53 · answer #6 · answered by txlady24 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-20 12:10:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her father assaulted a man guilty of no crime. Of course they're going too far. Call the police on this man if it hasn't already been done. She needs to get out of that house and possibly cut ties with them.
2007-12-30 16:18:48 · answer #8 · answered by Eiliat 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋