I like to go out and dance and my personality leads me to be the life of the party?

Question

I have always been the real outgoing guy who always made everyone laugh. Ever since 7 months ago I broke up with my g/f I never was able to find someone new. Do girls or people in general think a guy who is outrageous and fun is cool, but not b/f material? Obviously I can't go out and be a complete stiff but maybe tone it down a bit?

Answer 1

Well one thing to realize is the stimata that comes with being the "life of the party". This typically puts you way beyond the personal securities of most people to have them get off self-neglect to even think they can have you. Or in other words, people are going to be too insecure to reach out to you. So you have to be able to crack people open are your never going to get what your after. Since our society is so overly sexualize and the fact that this is a pride thing, not a heart/love/deep thing. It makes people by default extremely insecure, shoot your interaction with them is your reaction to your own insecurities. You can't be a stiff, because your to insecure of what people well think of you as the stiff, so trust they feel the same insecurites, but don't treat it the same way. So just get people talking, open them up, your the "life of the party" and thats what the "Stiffs" are looking for.