... Mother said that since I lived with my fiance before marriage that by no means would the catholic church marry us. Is this true?
2007-12-30 16:02:43 · 13 answers · asked by p5short 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
absolutely not...times have changed...thats like saying if you arent a virgin the church wont marry you...its baloney.
i am already married---we had a civil service before my husband got deployed---and we are getting married (NOT renewing our vows) in the Church this coming June.
so your mother is wrong on this one...you and your fiance will have to attend a class---its about 5 hours long...and meet with your preist...then you will be all set to have your ceremony.
congratulations and best wishes!!
2007-12-30 16:08:48 · answer #1 · answered by xtcwmeg 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes! My fiance and I are living together, and we are having a Catholic ceremony. We've also completed marriage prep through the Catholic church (God's Plan for a Joy-Filled Marriage is a great new program for the Catholic church, if you have a choice). There is a section of questions you go over if you live together and also a set for if you've been married before. The marriage prep was very contemporary, and we didn't feel ashamed like I thought we would. However, we did do this at a Newman Center Catholic church on campus. Hopefully priests not on a college campus will be just as understanding.
2007-12-31 00:48:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sooo NOT true. I've lived with my fiance for 3 years now and in April we are getting married through the Catholic Church. We are having the BIG wedding...reception and dance. By NO means is your mother right. She might be worried about how it looks...but I'm sorry...get over it...it's YOUR big day and the only people who matter in the end are you and your fiance. My priest has no problem with it at all. In fact, I think now a days, it might be better to live with one another first. With the divorce rate rising, it's not like the old days when you couldn't get divorced, so living together first proves your commitment to one another...and shows y'all are matched.
2007-12-31 00:25:31 · answer #3 · answered by Catherine S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most priests will allow you to have a quiet, private marriage rite to "regularize" the situation so that you are no longer in a state of sin (premarital sex being fornication, which is a sin that breaks the commandment not to commit adultery).
If you want a big wedding, then it's a simple matter of one of you moving out for a while. Stay with a friend or a relative until the wedding...and keep your pants on. It's a good way to prove that you will both be faithful to your marriage vows after you take them.
2008-01-01 16:27:16 · answer #4 · answered by sparki777 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely NOT TRUE!
My son and daughter-in-law lived together for a year and were married in the Catholic Church in 2006. As a matter of fact, all the weddings I have gone to in the last 10 years or so....ALL the couples have been living together.....and I have gone to many Catholic and Lutheran weddings!
2007-12-31 00:11:09 · answer #5 · answered by iloveweddings 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
As long as you and your fiance regularly attend the catholic church you want to be married in, there should be no problem.
2007-12-31 00:11:05 · answer #6 · answered by Tony the Rogue Warrior 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the church, some are more conventional than others.
2007-12-31 00:50:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
THAT IS NOT TRUE. I STOOD IN A WEDDING THE FIRST WEEK IN DECEMBER & THEY WERE LIVING TOGETHER FOR OVER A YEAR. IT ALSO HAS TO DO WITH THE PRIEST. SOMETIMES THEY DONT EVEN ASK ABOUT YOUR LIVING ARANGEMENTS, AS LONG AS YOU GO TO YOUR MARRIAGE CLASSES!
2007-12-31 14:55:28 · answer #8 · answered by InToChIcK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. It's not. My bro and his wife lived together before marriage, went to pre-cana and got married in a Catholic church. Good luck!
2007-12-31 11:12:19 · answer #9 · answered by jessiekarma 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the church. Some catholic churches are more strict than others. The church my fiance belongs to is very strict, and would not marry us because we live together. Just ask the priest of the church you are interested in, and go from there. Otherwise, you can just check into a non-denominational church for your wedding so you still have the religious aspect (that is what we are doing, which is fine with me....I'm Lutheran anyway!!).
2007-12-31 10:48:04 · answer #10 · answered by ~Gemini~ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋