Problem with my boyfriends best friend, talk to my boyfriend bout it or not? lengthy, but plz help!!?

Question

i have a problem w/ my boyfriends best friend b/c since the 1st time my bf told me we were gunna hang out and then canceled to hang out with his best friend which i would have had no problem with except that was on a tuesday and he hung out with his best friend for the whole week and weekend.. ever since then i have had bad feeling toward his friend.. and he cancled 2 hang out with him even a couple more times so it's not like it just happened once.and well he even spent this whole christmas week with him,but we actually hung out today & yesterday.. yesterday was good but today while we & some other of our friends played monopoly his best came over & he just got up and left and went out & talked to him and it really upset me cause it was our day & i had to go early & go 2 my grandmas & come on he spent the whole break with this kid &even is spending the night with him again & on the phone he was kinda ignoring me, not 1st time 4 this either. if we don't hang out new yrs i'm gunna b mad

Answer 1

Well he doesn't need to be with u 24/7 let him have his friends

Answer 2

I think boys need there time to be with their home boys and time for their girlfriend. If he cant balance that then there is going to be a problem which as already happened. You shouldn't expect him to be with you 24/7 because he might feel like you are up under him too much and that he needs his space BUT he doesn't know how to balance u and his best friend and u need to tell him that if he doesn't learn soon that he is going to be without a girlfriend when the new year comes and if he lets it happens then that should tell you that he really didn't give a damn about y'all relationship in the first place. I think u should just sit down and have a serious talk with him to let him know how u feel and that u need your time with him too and GOOD LUCK with that .I hope everything works out for u

Answer 3

Well, it sure seems that your bf really isn't ready to be a bf, but just likes the idea of having a girl somewhere out there in the ozone. First of all, it is rude to cancel on someone if you have already made plans. That is proof that your bf is very immature, to have done that. I am guessing you guys are VERY young - either that, or he is just immature. I appreciate that fact that you don't seem like a jealous person, but your bf spends SO much time with his friend that it is clearly his priority. You can see clearly where you stand, I'm afraid - in the back seat! Time to dump the guy. Sorry!

Answer 4

The boyfriend is obviously not interested in a mature relationship. Also, two people who really care about each other, can spend time a part (actually very healthy to do so). A relationship doesn't mean either person must give up friends!

Answer 5

i think you should REALLY talk to him. you guys should have quality time with each other, now if he doesn't want to, or if he ignores it, well i suppose he's having difficulty in your relationship. But of course, try to figure things out, be a little frank with him, Talk to him about his best friend and him spending TOO MUCH time with each other. Yet you have to understand that he is a guy, guys tend to be ignorant sometimes. Try to ask him about your relationship, ask him whether he's still likes/love you, and you guys being together. Because that's what makes your relationship stronger and healthier. Being honest, sincere, and understanding to each other is very important in a relationship so try being those things with each other. and if it works, Have a Happy New Year!.. ü

Answer 6

this is a classic case of you competing with the best friend for attention. i don't know how long your boyfriend and his friend have known one another, but it sounds like your boyfriend is under peer pressure. if your man decides he wants to hang out with just you, it's possible his friends are saying he's whipped, teasing him, or upset he is choosing a girl over their friendship. where you are upset that he is choosing his friend over you. well, why don't you invite his friend to go out with the two of you to like a pool hall or bowling alley, even a small get together with mutual friends to break the ice. although, if you guy continues to choose his friends over you, by just leaving you places and ignoring you when his friends are around, then you should make yourself scarce. what i mean is, since he isn't around for you, don't be around for him. if he breaks a date with you again, don't answer his calls for a day or two. find something for you to do, that you want, with or without him.

P.S
just know that absence makes the heart grow founder. i don't know what the deal is with you guys relationship, but it never hurts to take some ME time. I guarantee that if you stop being around him, he will come to you to find out why. Don't try to make him stop hanging out with his friends, because that will only drive a more in depth wedge between the two of you, that could possibly lead to the end of your relationship.

Answer 7

Honestly the guy sounds like an empty promise to be honest if you have this fealing you should tlk to him about it and if he shrugs you off again then i would leave there is plenty more fish in the sea that will show you the respect you diserve.

Answer 8

that was a little confusing.
but it seems like he might be a little afraid of comittment.
like he rather have friends than a girlfriend.
i would say that you should def. talk to him about it...but be careful of your words.
dont try to seem like your jelous or that you want to be with him every 2 seconds.
you will seem too clingy.
sit him down and tell him that you would like to spend some time with him alone and that you love his friend and all, but hes going out with you, not his best friend.

Answer 9

The way you blabber on and on, I would try to get away from you too!