SERIOUSLY....no joke. He knows my boundaries and respects them, but tomorrow night we are probably going to be drinking SOME......how can I make sure that I stick to my boundaries....I am going to be spending the night with him because of New Years. I have spent the night with him before, but this could be a little different bc of the holiday.
2007-12-30 15:48:21 · 46 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If your going to do something you regret, and know your going to do it. Premeditated-Remorse is only going to be prosecuted on both of you, after the actual physical-act. If you need or require alcohol to loosen up around each other, is the relationship deep or just the shallow end of a potential deep-pool.
I hate to be a prude, and it is by no means bragging, but I waited till 32 myself, but I can honestly say I did it for me, and her and no one else. Good luck, but think hard and consider seperate parties this year if if bugs you that much, allright?
2007-12-30 15:59:13 · answer #1 · answered by SophiaSeeker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my gf and I are JUST like you two! Only she is 19 and I'm 21. We have been going out for over 2 years and we both know what our limit is when we fool around. We have had some really close calls though, especially after certain events like prom, birthdays, anniversaries, but we have never gone the difference. I always try to keep it in the back of my head that it is best for our relationship if we both wait.
NEVER let remarks your friends may make bother you if you tell them that you and your bf are still virgins, because you are savoring your love for a very special moment. And also don't think that there arent any other couples like you around because their are. If you are patient and you wait till the right time you will be rewarded.
So my advice to you is to enjoy new years eve and party, but DONT do anything stupid for you will regret it later!!!
2007-12-30 15:58:16 · answer #2 · answered by kittybella 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a talk with your boyfriend before New Years Eve and set some boundaries for the night. It also might be helpful to set to boundaries for drinking as well. One of you should volunteer to be the 'designated driver' and will be able to control the situation if things should get out of hand. It's important to set limits and stick with them. Good luck.
2007-12-30 15:57:06 · answer #3 · answered by theonlyanswer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, if you want to stay a virgin, be smart. If you must drink just be cautious. If he's a good guy, he won't push your boundaries, and if he tries, just give him a warning. Nothing too harsh but just a subtle reminder. Don't use the holiday as an excuse however.
2007-12-30 15:51:33 · answer #4 · answered by Scott K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you almost sound like youre questioning the legitamacy of the boundary. Make a decision yes or no before you go out tommorrow. Send him a text or an email saying either " i ready to do the nasty" or " youre getting the best fellatio ever tonight" in so many words. Dont be a tease though.
2007-12-30 16:00:34 · answer #5 · answered by Orange C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you! My hubby waited for me almost 30 years and we got married first!!!
Dont drink too much! Decide well beforehand your limit and stick to it! Bring along some yummy non-alcoholic drinks to fill up on and eat dinner. Go to bed before the wee hours (your will power disappears suprisingly fast after midnight).
Decide how you will handle any encounters and how far is too far well before the night and then stick to your guns.
Even drunk you still have choices, just make sure you know what your choice will be before you get there. HAPPY NEW YEAR!
2007-12-30 15:55:08 · answer #6 · answered by Jenster 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of you in your 20's and virgins? That's rare enough.
If you both are intent on remaining this way, limit the drinking. More inhibitions (and clothing) are cast aside in an unplanned manner after a few drinks, especially with the amateur drinkers that indulge just that one night every year.
Good Luck.
2007-12-30 15:54:51 · answer #7 · answered by Bill F 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget is a holiday, think it is just another night out and stick to your boundaries.. which should include drinking limits...
2007-12-30 15:52:09 · answer #8 · answered by Karla T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, what is your question exactly? Do you not want to have sex? If you don't then that is great..... because if you are a virgin, you should save that moment to "make love". And if you make love with someone, let it be someone you want to spend your life with. If you are both virgins, then what a beautiful thing to experience. Don't drink too much, unless you want it to happen. And don't drink too much if you want to remember one of the most amazing experiences of your life.
2007-12-30 15:54:57 · answer #9 · answered by Angel Eyes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it.
If he's a 25 year old virgin he isn't going to have the faintest clue on how things work down there.
2007-12-30 15:53:33 · answer #10 · answered by kanoa k 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋