i have been seeing my boyfriend for about 7months now
and he has been lacking affection for me so i asked him if he was celibate and i came to find out he was
its hard to deal with because he hasn't even kissed me yet
im starting to question if our relationship is worth it
im 20 and never had sex before and had wanted too hopefully
but it seems i have to wait longer than i thought
well he is 25 and says that he feels more disciplined this way
should i remain this way with him or move on?
and were both christians...
2007-12-30 15:43:29 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
You should see that he is showing great respect for you, out of love of God. You sound as though you want him to lust after you? Is that what Jesus would want? No.
There is a reason why Christianity teaches that sex is for marriage. You have only indicated that you two are simply dating, not engaged. Do you realize that even if couples are engaged to be married, that statistically, if they engage in pre-marital sex, they greatly increase their chances of divorce? Would you really want that?
2007-12-30 15:59:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
you could no longer rigidity your self on every physique whether you have been a length 4 you would be humiliated and you deserve extra suitable. Grin and submit to it or locate somebody who's properly suited along with your desires. communicate it out and locate out the reason he's celibate. At this element you do not have something to lose. yet keep being your self and actual on your man or woman desires. good success.
2016-11-26 23:09:09 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're both Christians, he may have religious reasons for it. Perhaps he doesn't want to have sex before marriage and it is easier for him if he doesn't "play with fire". Does he act like he loves you, despite this? Tell him you would appreciate more physical attention, but don't push him further than he wants to go. Seven months seems to be a bit long to be going with someone without any indication of where the relationship is going. If you don't want this kind of relationship, move on, because I don't think he will change.
2007-12-30 15:53:32 · answer #3 · answered by Snow Globe 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
While it may be really hard, you must respect his wishes. You should actually be honored that he loves you that much that he wants to wait. Today there are not very many people that have that view - VERY FEW. Appreciate it. If you ask any number of people, they will tell you that they wish that they waited as well.
In the meantime, you still need to be shown love and affection and he can do this in lots of other ways!! You should tell him that. Let him think of some things that would make you happy. Whether it's going somewhere that you want to or bringing you your favorite thing to eat, etc.
He sounds like a really great guy. Your very lucky.
2007-12-30 15:55:40 · answer #4 · answered by Jem 3 · 5⤊ 2⤋
If he hasn't kissed you, there is something wrong. Move on.
If I get thumbs down it's from controlling Christians who are afraid of allowing a young woman such as yourself to own her own sexuality. I guarantee most of the people above that are saying "keep him" or "sex is for marriage" had sex before marriage. Your sex life is in your own hands. You control it - not the hypocrites who tell you that you are being unChristian if you don't wait.
A healthy, well-adjusted man does not date someone he's attracted to for seven months and withhold affection, especially something as innocent as a kiss. Stay and you'll be setting yourself up for disappointment.
2007-12-30 16:06:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
This is a problem? Wow you are truly blessed with a man who LOVES God!! Why would you want the problems the world has? Women are looking for this kind of man-he respects God that means he will honor you. If your relationship is headed towards marriage you should get pre-marital counseling on where both of your ideas, desires for relationship stand. That is where you will both know if your choices will be able to withstand marriage. Most of all pray, sounds like your a real woman with real desires, if you have no peace about staying in the relationship move-on. If your just anxious seek Godly older woman counseling, your mom, your youth leader etc... Seek God.
2007-12-30 15:56:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
I agree that this is a miracle to find a guy this Godly and Christian, but as far as a kiss, there is no reason nt to, unless he is afraid it would lead to other things right away, ask him about that.===
2007-12-30 15:58:27 · answer #7 · answered by lana s 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If he says he is celibate-------he is gay.
If he says he is waiting for marriage, that is a different ballgame. Wait with him
2007-12-30 23:57:35 · answer #8 · answered by Shossi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him then you respect his choice. If you can't live with his choice then you need to find another boyfriend and hopefully keep this guy as a respected friend.
2007-12-30 17:09:03 · answer #9 · answered by freebird 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You really didnt say your feelings toward him. So I will say if you like/love this guy you would respect his decision. You wouldnt be asking for a physical relationship and be happy with him and wait. Most christian girls would love to have a boyfriend who wanted more than a physical relationship!
2007-12-30 15:48:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 2⤋