Everybody tells me I should get out more and mix with ppl my own age People my age I find very immature and they either have kids or are married and they do not have time for me. I prefer older more mature and sensible people and like to mix with these. I also like to mix in a professional yet fun setting like work. Am I strange? People say I am no fun but I do not want them to think I am silly or that I am not mature.Friday and Saturday nights or any nights I like to curl up with my cat and watch tv or get on the pc and have fun.In the day time I like to shop with my mom and have coffee with her. I also like to cook. I am not into the club or pub scene or wild parties.People tell me to grow up and get out. I have had many bad experiences mixing with young people, including them abandoing me and me having to walk home alone and being harrassed by men. I have been grabbed while I went out with girl friends and I have been almost raped. I know what could happen and I choose quiet life
2007-12-30 15:16:40 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That sounds like a nice peaceful life (similar to mine, actually, though I have two cats, and weeknights I do tech support), so the real question is, what more do you want from life? While growing up and getting out is an option, the question is, to do what? Are there any things you could do, like book or movie clubs, that would provide a more social environment but still be safe for you? You sound like you've made some deliberate choices to get to this point; so it's up to you to decide what else you want.
2007-12-30 15:25:42 · answer #1 · answered by Spartacus! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your life sounds excellent... most people are never so content on any level for even one day of the week... the nightlife is over rated and really nothing long term ever developes from that world... the high end clubs & bars are just as shallow and pathetic as all the others... I've seen things people would only think happens in a movie... have you read a book by an author last name Fadiman... the daughter not the father... she has a couple interesting books of essays or opinions on life.
2007-12-30 15:31:14 · answer #2 · answered by chequemate 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time marches on.
You should probably get out more, but you don't have to do the bar or church scene to do that.
When I was your age, the catholics had a "young adult ministry" to cover people aged 25 to 40. They did several fun and yet not wild things.
Now with several mis-steps, I too have felt my youth has passed me by .. and I am older than you. So you have time yet, just don't wait too long.
People are encouraging me to try the "meetup" tm bunch. it does seem to have grown and there are quite a few things to do.
And there are plenty of older people who probably would think you are a fine friend and perhaps you can find more than just friendship if you are looking.
good hunting.
2007-12-30 15:27:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, having been married at 18 and now divorced I felt like I missed out on a lot.
None of what I feel I missed was partying with people my own age. I just feel like I wasted time that could have been spent with someone that actually cared about me.
Don't change your life to suit other people. If you're happy with the life you have, find someone that would be happy to share that life with you. You don't want to go out partying a few times to meet a guy and realize he's not like you at all, and do it all over again. If you don't like that lifestyle, the only people you will meet doing it are people from that lifestyle.
Be yourself, and if you're happy and you don't feel like you're missing anything, then you're fine.
2007-12-30 15:25:10 · answer #4 · answered by daeraelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothings wrong with that!!!
A lot of men prefer a lady like you....the more conservative, quiet type of individual.
You will find some one soon. Dont succumb to your friends pressure to go out. Do what you want to do
2007-12-30 15:21:43 · answer #5 · answered by Eric V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are as old as you act. If you dont socialize, your age will be similar to an 80-year-old hermit that has lost their partner due to the tragedies of modern day society.
2007-12-30 15:23:30 · answer #6 · answered by Blake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats how my life has been , I get lonely the older I get.
Good Luck and Take Care
2007-12-30 15:21:25 · answer #7 · answered by Backhoe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
youth is overrated --- i do not miss it and have no wish to be young again --- its too much fun being my age ---- i have never liked clubs/pubs/bars ---- live your life the way you want and enjoy
2007-12-30 15:25:15 · answer #8 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yep your life is passing you by while you hide in your lil safe house
2007-12-30 15:20:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋