At 16 my girlfriends 15 and we're not sexually active yet, but we still make out a lot, and i'm just wondering as to how fast you like you're boyfriend to go or at least how fast and far he can go until you get uncomfortable or annoyed. I mean him holding your butt and feeling up and that kind of stuff, how fast and far do you like to go at this age basically?
2007-12-30 15:13:35 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
At that age, it's really best for you to let her choose the pace of your relationship. As long as she's comfortable with you touching her while you're making out, it's fine, but before you try something new, ask her and respect her answer. For example, if you wanted to hold her butt, as you said, while you were kissing, but were unsure about how she felt, you could lightly put your hand there and ask, "Is this ok?" She will tell you if she's ok with it. Don't push anything on her too fast - my ex-boyfriend pushed a lot of things on me that I wasn't sure I was comfortable with but felt bad refusing him. Don't do anything that will cause her to wonder if it was right when she leaves. Good luck with your girlfriend and have a great New Year.
2007-12-30 15:21:00 · answer #1 · answered by Sarah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing first. If she says NO or Stop then do so. Although it is fustrating for you its in your best intrest.
You need to talk to her about it and what could happen. What will the two of you do incase she gets pregnant.
She has to be comfortable. So tell her if at any time it is going to far for her let you know. You both have to be ready for sex to have it.
Be prepared!!! Have condoms or some type of birth control before you even think about going all the way.If you both think you are getting close to that point. Then if she cant go to her mom for birthcontrol. A city around you should have a planned parenthood clinic. They will give her an exam and will give her birth control pills for free. I think they have a web site. All it takes is one little oops.
I personally had sex when I was 16 1/2. BUT I knew my husband was the one. He was very paitent with me. I was going to have sex with him the first time at almost 16 and I decided not to. I mean we both were butt naked, he had a condom on and I just looked at him and told him I was ready yet. Although he was a little on the frustrated side down stairs. He told me that was fine and he wanted to wait until we both were ready. We have been together for 13 years now. :)
2007-12-30 15:27:04 · answer #2 · answered by Kendra B 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Im a dude... but here is my answer.
Just go with what feels right for the both of you. If you notice that she is not ready for something then stop. Really....! Just stop.
The reasons are many. But basically if you really like her then you will consider her feelings. If you dont consider her feelings then she WILL remember that and it may come up later and bite you in the ***.
"I think this relationship is going to fast. I need a break for awhile" Then you are out the door. No *** grabbing and no making out.
Lets face it. We all know when the other person is uncomfortable. Yet we try to push it more and more. Ever so slowly but we keep pushing and then we crash.
This also goes both ways. Chicks can be pushy too. Take me here...wink* Take me there.... wink*wink* Buy this for me....wink*wink*wink*. Uh..... you gonna let me grab your *** oneday baby?!
You see it goes both ways. Just chill with her and let it develop slowly. Hard to do but it will be worth it.
Miguel
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2007-12-30 15:24:46 · answer #3 · answered by Calspeed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is the big deal about sex? Disease, aids, herpes, pregnancy. At your age you should be planning what you want to do with your life, you want a baby on your hands at 16? You know it only takes one time! Kissing and hugging is natural it is accepted in our society, but anything more is playing with fire. Respect yourself and your body, your body is your temple cherish it, take care of yourself. Boys will respect you more.....why buy a cow when the milk is free? Besides how do you know where that thing has been and what germs he carries. Don't be in a hurry, enjoy your youth. Good luck you are tomorrows future!!!
2007-12-30 15:27:04 · answer #4 · answered by Frances M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are way too young to go that far with a 15 year old GIRL!!! Stop making out so much, it will get you both into TROUBLE!!! Holding hands and kissing are way too under-rated.
If you wait to do the grown up stuff until your grown up, it will be so much more rewarding and you'll have no problem staying out of MAJOR, life altering trouble.
2007-12-30 15:19:54 · answer #5 · answered by butrcupps 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, that is an answer based more on the person. I personally like things to go slow, I'd like to wait until marriage. I personally don't like to go to far, but some girls do. I guess it depends on the person. If your relationship is serious the best thing to is to sit down and talk about it. Read her body language and respect her wishes. I hope that helps.
2007-12-30 15:20:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, it depends on the person. Every two 16-year old aren't the same, right? The only thing I can say is that you have to find out yourself. To make your process faster, try to go in to your girl friend more, and be more friendly. Hope this helps!~ ~*^^*~
2007-12-30 15:20:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can be a weird situation but if you and your girlfriend are not mature enough to have the cnversation then maybe you shouldnt be having sex yet! If you do just be safe and responsible... Take it from me it isnt easy raising ababy as a teenager =) Good Luck
2007-12-30 15:18:38 · answer #8 · answered by Sheri 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm no girl, but that's too fast.
Problem is, you're not supposed to be in control. Don't let these guys fool you.
Back off for respect's sake. The sexiest woman is in charge! Not the guy. Then it can become rape or just too aggressive.
2007-12-30 15:17:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Kind of slow. I don't think you should touch her butt or anything like that for at least 2 months unless she's a slut.
2007-12-30 15:16:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋