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my daughter does not do good in school how do i punish her telling her drugs arnt good because she smokes i need some help with some ideas how to talk 2 her like this

2007-12-30 15:05:41 · 14 answers · asked by Emilee 2 in Family & Relationships Family

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show her some consequences.. Pictures of what can happen. ( freinds mom did that,she didnt take a puff ever since)

or tell her what can happen if her marks are bad..working in bad conditions. ect.

2007-12-30 15:10:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

Instead of looking for ways to punish her, look for ways to help her. Try to find out what's going on with her. Is she having problems keeping up with the work? If so, talk to her teachers about what she's being taught. Maybe you can help tutor her. Has she fallen in with the wrong crowd? Sometimes good kids so need to be accepted that they'll do anything for attention. Is she doing drugs or is she just smoking cigarettes? Cigarettes aren't good for her but she's probably doing that to look "cool".

If she used to be a good student and her behavior has changed, try to trace back to what might have been going on in her life around the time you noticed a change. Did she change schools? Did she break up with a boyfriend, or get a boyfriend? Have you gotten to know her friends? Do you have conversations with her? Who is she and what is she all about?

By developing a working relationship with her to where she can feel comfortable talking to you knowing she won't be judged, she may open up to you and you may find a way to help her that way. By looking at her poor grades as something that needs to be punished, you'll be missing an opportunity to get closer to your daughter and to help her become a happy, healthy adult. Find out what the cause of the problem is and work with her to try to solve it.

2007-12-30 23:18:00 · answer #2 · answered by innerradiancecoaching 6 · 3 0

Emphasize the importance of maintaining her personal health and her grades. While everyone knows they should maintain good grades, they don't always understand how it will actually benefit them. Maintaining a good level of respect from her teachers and peers will benefit her even if she may not realize it now. While doing drugs may seem to bring about that same respect from her peers, it is most likely from people who will not influence her in a positive manner. Approach her and ask her why she's been slipping. If she needs help (and it may not be from you) it's your duty to provide it for her or to find someone who can even if she just needs someone to talk to. It also may just be one of those wonderful phases we all went through. The best bet is to talk to her. If you just punish her without trying to hear her side of things, she'll resent you for it. Just simply ask if she's okay or if she needs help with homework. Make an effort and even though she may not show it, she'll notice.

2007-12-31 00:10:12 · answer #3 · answered by __Lif__ 2 · 0 0

My parents have punished me for poor grades and smoking. It doesn't help with the grades, she might struggle in school but doesn't want to admit it. But if she slacks on purpose ground her from friends until she brings home better grades (try doing a weekly progress report). As for the smoking, my parents know I smoke cigarettes, but I only get grounded if I get caught smoking.

2007-12-30 23:21:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

try helping her and telling her that she can talk to you about anything and if she does talk to you dont get to mad or that will lose your trust with her.but at the same time make sure you also put down some rules.like make sure you keep an eye on her,know where she is at times,and stuff like that.but every kid goes through that stage where they want try "new things" but you need to be there and tell her whats wrong and right and let her make her own mistakes

2007-12-30 23:24:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

for the smoking part. buy a pack of ciggies.
make her smoke 1 after the other.
she will soon be very sick to her stomach. she should be throwing up.

beware.

for all the other things drugs not very good school work etc.

your best bet; turn her over your knee and spank her on her bare bum.

good luck.
hope my suggestions comments help out.

laurey.
a.laureyandwilliam@yahoo.co.uk

2007-12-30 23:32:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

how old is she?
why doesn't she do good? does she study? do you help her?does she have learning disabilities?
private tutoring helps and they will test for disabilties, when her grades improve, so will her self confidence.
smoking---do you smoke? do her friends smoke? you cant make her stop, but you can provide the info about the harm smoking does, find some graphic pics of smokers lungs.

2007-12-30 23:26:41 · answer #7 · answered by Denise S 2 · 0 0

lose all hope...




just kidding. :)
maybe you can tell her that each cigarette takes 5 minutes of one's life. oh and also that it looks really idiotic when a girl is smoking. I dont know why, but whenever i see a female smoking, i want to just snatch the cigarette and throw it on the floor. then again i want to do that to anyone i see smoking...


but if she's a rebel... i think it'll be really hard. tell her it breaks your heart. that you gave birth to her but she's treating you this way.

2007-12-30 23:11:19 · answer #8 · answered by juney_bloomey 1 · 2 0

it depends on what she is smoking but I don't think that smoking is effectong her in school.........tell her about her future, talk to her about college and a career..........don't forget to tell her that working hard in school will pay off in the end and I don't think that you should punish her... failing in school and later in life is good enough

2007-12-30 23:12:04 · answer #9 · answered by The Hottest thing around 2 · 1 0

send her to a school for kids on drugs or problem children

2007-12-30 23:10:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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