So me and my boyfriend were doing amazing till he started hitting on other girls. And I started getting mad at him and he would just say Oh Jess It's no Big deal I don't love them I love you! So I just blew it of but then it got worse and I foun him making out with a nother girl who happens do be my best friend Or was. So I broke up with him. But now he says he's changed and want me to take him back I think i am in love with this guy and I want to beleive he is telling the truth but he hurt me so bad before. Should I give him a secon chance or just go find some one new?
2007-12-30 14:37:07 · 51 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're too young to waste your time on a guy like him. Find a guy who will treat you right.
2007-12-30 14:39:29 · answer #1 · answered by Lillian 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you know the right answer.. doesn't really matter what we tell you. I would advise you to go with your head and not your heart on this one :)
No. I am highly doubting a change. Especially this soon! When you're in love, sometimes your head gets a little foggy but the decision seems obvious from a 3rd person standpoint.
This probably isn't what you want to hear, but I do my best to be "real" :-) Good luck and Happy New Year. You'll find someone better than a cheater.
2007-12-30 14:42:11 · answer #2 · answered by Arron 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay this guy (i am sorry) apprently is just using you i am sorry but he is . i think you should definetly say "well you really hurt me so i don't want to be in that kind of situtation again" the only thing he can do is hurt you again. idk what kind of person you are but think if you would do that kind of thing to him (which i know you probably wont) i say that you find a guy that is 100 times better then him. there is someone out there for everyone trust me i have been throught some hard relationship problems i have been cheated on and he wanted me back and when i said no he decided to go find another girlfriend two days later. you don't want the same thing happen to u
2007-12-30 14:42:31 · answer #3 · answered by blahhhhhh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't. If he did that to you once, who's to say he wouldn't do it again? He told you it wasn't a big deal, and then he made into a bigger deal. There is a chance that he has changed and realized what he's lost... but there is also a chance he hasn't and is just going to hurt you again. You have to figure out if you are willing to take the chance of getting hurt again. Perhaps before giving him another chance, you should make him prove himself again. If he means what he says, I'm sure he'd be willing to do so.
2007-12-30 14:41:10 · answer #4 · answered by livelaughlove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh girl, been there done that.... that is how my ex husband played me 15 + yrs ago. i gave him a second chance. got married had 2 kids, lost most of my friends and relatives by him putting me in a very controlled "box". he got to have a live in maid, babysitter laundry etc. he however continued to run around for years until i was finally strong enough to leave. ii would NEVER be doubtful about myself that way again.
u know in your heart it isnt right, dont do it. find some one who will love u for u and not for "control" or convienence. u deserve better!! wont u wonder everytime he goes out with out u? where he is and what he's doing.... and with who?
not a good idea babe.
2007-12-30 14:48:44 · answer #5 · answered by mb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only answer that I can give you is that you should follow the way that is going to make you a better women. Truthfully I don't think this guy diserves you...but this world is all about second chances...just don't let him hurt you again and don't let him change you... be yourself!
2007-12-30 14:43:10 · answer #6 · answered by brittanyhasuranswer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My girlfriend did the same thing...but I got back together with her and we love each other more than ever now a while later. You have to find out if he's truly sincere. Make him chase you and if he does he might be interested. If you do this don't commit yourself to him. That way if he does something like this again you can detach yourself from him without too much emotional distress.
2007-12-30 14:41:41 · answer #7 · answered by bmxskater5544 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think the real question you should ask yourself is that if you take him back, will you be ok when he is not with you? would be ok if you introduce him one of your friends? can you or can you not live the big question in your head: is he cheating on me? or will he?
if you think you can handle that, and if you think you will really trust him again, without being tourturing yourself everytime you don't see him... then give it another chance, maybe he did change...... and in cas he didn't then you'll know, that you were not the one to blame...
I hope it helps
2007-12-30 14:43:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
realy he did hurt you and his chance was when u blew it off so he actualy had another chance before he was caught makingout with your friend people can change he might of matured a little but its a 50/50 chance i would give him another chance just be very very cautious he probaly figures u will be then tell you you need to trust him more when you do he probbaly is gonna makeout with another girl again but 50/50 chance
2007-12-30 14:42:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pshh, Hunn.
Find Some one Who Wont EVER do Thatt.
I'd Say You Could do Better.
He Seems Like a Loww Lifee Loserrr.
(:
2007-12-30 14:42:22 · answer #10 · answered by Ashley(: 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Been there. It feels like your heart is bursting. You want to believe him. You want to be with him again. But he will do it to you again the first chance he gets. Guys like this seldom change for real. They cheat over and over again, even when they love you. The question is: how much heartache are you willing to endure just to keep him in your life?
2007-12-30 14:46:26 · answer #11 · answered by BusyBody 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋