My christian brother and sisters i need ur help and words of encouragement?

Question

I am in a serious relationship with my boyfriend for 3 years and for a about a 2 months i had been trying to help minister to this guy well i feel terribly bad because what started out as my quest to help another soul ended up down another path my feelings got caught up and i ended up sleeping with him my heart breaks because i did something that i know that has messed up my relationship with God i feel like a lost sheep who cant seem to find her master when i used to be so close what do i do should i tell my boyfriend and what do i do far as God and this other guy

Answer 1

One of the Bible's greatest truths is that Christ died to take away all our sins; not just part of them, but all of them: past, present, and future.

This is why you shouldn't fear that you will lose your salvation every time you commit a sin. If that were the case, you and I would lose our salvation every day—because we sin every day. Even if our actions are pure, our thoughts often are not. And even if our actions and thoughts are pure, we still sin because of the good things we should be doing but fail to do.

Never forget: Your salvation does not depend on you and how good you are.

It depends solely on Christ and what He has already done for you through His death on the cross. The Bible says that Christ "appeared once for all at the end of the ages to do away with sin by the sacrifice of himself" (Hebrews 9:26).

Does that mean it doesn't matter whether or not you sin? No, of course not. Sin is serious; it is an offense to God, and it breaks our fellowship with Him. Sin also compromises our witness for Christ. The Bible is clear: "Be holy, because I am holy" (1 Peter 1:16).

But you cannot live the Christian life in your own strength. You need God's help; which is why He has given His Holy Spirit to you. When you sin, confess it immediately, and then seek the Holy Spirit's help each day to live as you should.

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Answer 2

Well, I would pray about this. You feel that it's wrong to have sex before marriage, and I agree with you on this. I wish I had waited myself.

But, here is the difficult situation. You have opened a situation and you feel guilty...AFTER praying about this, let your boyfriend know that you do not feel right about continuing to have sex. I can guarantee that he will NOT be happy about this. But if he cares about you as a person, he needs to be understanding about what you feel you can do in the relationship. Pray and confess this situation to God and ask for his forgiveness and strength. Then turn away from what you feel is wrong. Because most likely, it is the Holy Spirit convicting you of this.

Let's put this into a different perspective. If this boyfriend cannot understand this, he may decide to end the relationship. And while that might be hard, think of it this way. Let's say you decide from this point on to wait until marriage. If you meet someone else who feels the same way, he is more likely to want to develop a relationship with you over someone who sleeps with another guy easily.

So, trust me, that you are doing the right thing and showing integrity. Remember that God forgives anything when a person repents and turns away from the sin.

Answer 3

You need to repent. This is the primary reason why the Bible says women are not teach or have authority over a man.

It has nothing to do with woman being inferior, its just that certain rules protect everyone from temptation.

That is also why most pastors won't counsel a woman alone in the church office.

You have probably messed up your witness with the other guy, and your relationship with your boyfriend.

You say the relationship with your boyfriend is serious... does that mean you sleep with him also? That is a sin too.

What you need to do is repent. As far as your boyfriend and whether or not to tell him... I don't know what to say to you about that. It could hurt him more to know than not to, and you aren't married anyway, but at the same time it seems dishonest not to tell him.

Looks like you messed up.

Repent and turn to Jesus for forgiveness. Then remember what Jesus said to the woman caught in adultery, "Go and Sin no more." So don't do it again with this guy or any guy, including your boyfriend, wait until you are married.


EDIT---EDIT

Oh, and if you ever want to minister to a male again, always have another person present. Your boyfriend, another woman friend, someone to keep things from getting out of hand, also, always get together in public places- never private.

Answer 4

God is waiting for you to talk to him not like a phone call but a true repentance be honest with god tell him everything ask him to restore you ect....yes you messed up but god loves you he there he will take you back dont let satan tell you that god wont forgive you because he will! seek god daily let him work in your heart and mend it turn from those sins honestly you should tell your boyfriend and let go of both relationships no matter how much you love either one of them ! God is so much more important he loves you so much more than anyone persue a new relationship with god and focus on a husband or boyfriend later get right with god 1st


god bless you!
read proverbs 10 and psalms 34

Answer 5

Jesus will forgive you, when you ask for His forgiveness. First John 1:9 is still in the Book, and Jesus is still in the forgiveness business.

But repent of the sin you committed, and pledge not to do this again until you're married. I have a hunch, some guys are out to play other girls just to see how far they can go, and what they can get, and this seems to have happened to you. Forgive the guy, but let him go. It seems clear to me he didn't really want what you had to say--he just wanted you.

I grieve for you, and pray you can overcome. Don't give up. The Lord Jesus has much more for you to do for as long as you live on this earth. If you haven't done so, please read Psalms 51 and 57, too. This may provide some healing for your soul. "Neither do I condemn thee--go, and sin no more".

Answer 6

So what kind of help would you receive at this point?
Tough love,
or sugar coat the situation?

Yes you have separated yourself form God by this sin. It is in your power to stop the separation.

God or sex, heaven or hell. Hmmm

(and I do not mean eternal hell, what if you where to get pregnant, children are blessings from God. The stress that you would have to endure because of the lack of planning, such as not being married).

Hmmm

What about a STD? Are you ready for the possibility of a decease of some sort?

What are you going to do girl?

Be strong and choose God very good thing will happen.

Answer 7

In God's eyes, you are forgiven. As for your boyfriend, honesty is the best policy. Maybe, you and he, will need a little time to think about things. Maybe, the relationship is not as strong as you thought.
I just feel that to start a possible marriage, you should be honest upfront. It will make your relationship stronger, if there is love.
As for the other guy, that you "slipped with", use it as a witnessing tool. You messed up, your feelings got away with you, you are human, but Thanks be to Jesus, you are forgiven. We are not robots.
And if you need to get close to God, again? Pick up the "BOOK". He's waiting.

Answer 8

Well, I would tell the other guy you're sorry, you made a mistake. I feel you should really tell your boyfriend too. It's no good to keep secrets (actually you should be married if you're having relations with him too).

This is why women shouldn't counsel men and vice versa. This has happened before. Next time, find a male Christian that will help the person.

Luv ya. God bless

Answer 9

This is very serious....First off...yes tell the boyfriend..ask for his forgiveness...then wait and see if he forgives you. In the mean time....you need to get down on your hands and knees and beg God for his forgiveness. That too will come in time. You also need to forgive yourself for being human and weak in the flesh. Last but not least....find someone else to minister to the guy....I would find another pastor or someone not of the female gender. You need to completely separate from him. Doing this will help the boyfriend with his forgiveness. If he knows that you are no longer having contact with the other person his forgiveness may come easier for him. I have been where you are at....only it wan't my boyfriend it was my husband....we have now been married almost 15 years.....God bless and Good luck!

Answer 10

Well, the basic answer is if you aren't honest then the guilt will eventually eat up inside. If you and your boyfriend have always had an honest open relationship then you will need to tell him about this error in judgement. If he's what you think he is then he may well understand this one slip and choose to forgive. Though it may take time.

As for the other man, you'll have to tell him that you erred in your judgement so he won't think there is more between you. Tell him as soon as possible to avoid hurting him more than is called for. Also, you may have to pull back and let someone else help him.

Now as for God. You will have to seriously decide what to say in your heart and pray to Him. Explain your errors and if you are honestly sorry for what happened then He should also forgive you.

In the end though, it will be up to you personally to forgive yourself.