My dad has a brain disease, that will kill him... i dont kno if my friends can help... should i tell them?

Question

this disease is eating his brain away hes 50 years old... it makes him forget how to talk and think... he also is making my mom break down to a sad mess... the docters have no clue how long it will take for him tho have no brain, it could be 5 years or 20 or 2 years. seems like 2 years cuz its gotten worse. help me

Answer 1

I would say that it would depend on how you feel. I can actually say that I understand where you are coming from. I don't know how old you are or your whole situation, but whenever I was in middle school my dad was diagnosed with a dementia (brain disease). Unfortunately, I lived in a small town, which allowed for little privacy. I know that people in my town talked about him and my family, which was even more hurtful, but I never really talked about it to anyone. Perhaps it would have been better for me to talk to my friends about it, but I just didn't want them to pity me or treat me different and I didn't think that they would be able to understand anyways. At that point, all I wanted was a normal life at least at school so I never told any of my friends. I honestly don't know what my friends knew about my dad, if anything, but they never asked and I was glad for that. However, I do think that you may want to get some help for your family. Trust me, I know how hard it is on the family. I really feel for you , but just know that one day, you will be a stronger person for it. I agree with the person that said to make some memories with your dad. I'm sure that your dad isn't exactly a "normal dad" or even the "same dad" you used to know, but he is still your dad and you will be thankful for the memories and PICTURES of him one day. I wish you best!

Answer 2

I think you should certainly tell your closest friends, so they can be supportive of you and your needs both now and in the future when your dad's disease progresses.
They can help in so many different ways, by giving you a non-judgemental forum where you can vent your grief and rage, by helping you get out and away for a break, and by simply being there with a warm hand and a strong shoulder.

Try not to be hurt if a close friend seems to neglect you after learning of your dad's illness, it may well be that he or she just has no idea what to say or how to act. Don't be reluctant to ask for the help or supoport you need. at that moment, giving friends the security of knowing what to do.

(and remember to always save a hug for your mom)

Answer 3

Hello Rachel. I am sorry about your fathers condition. I believe in my heart that you should share this with your friends. They cannot help him, but they will be able to understand the situation. Most of all, they can be there for you if you need an outlet to release your feelings. I had many friends in school and never told them my problems. Now I talk to them after 20 years and find out they had some of the same problems or worse. We all discuss how we hid these problems, not wanting our friends to know because of shame or embarrassment. How we all wish we knew about this of one another to have not gone through these problems alone. So my dear, yes, let them know so they can understand why some days you are not at your best. Also talk to your Mom, and give her a hug and let her know it will be okay.

Answer 4

Yes, you should tell your friends. I don't think there's any way they can help him, but if they come to your house, they will understand what's going on and act right around him. That will be encouraging to him and your mother. Give you mother all the support you can -- she needs it. Make sure other people know what she is going through and that she gets what she needs to keep going and stay healthy. If you can talk to a church person or even a counselor at school, they might hook you up to some group who can make it easier for your mom.

Answer 5

your friends can't help your dad, but they can help you. and honestly, your life will change so it will be help them understand why you may not be able to do all the things you used to do,or if you are more emotional. You need to understand that everyone doesn't know how to deal with these things. Maybe you can talk to someone, a counselor or someone, because it sounds like your mom can't be there for you right now. talk to the doctor and find out if there's a group or something for kids who'se parents have an illness.

Answer 6

Absolutely you should! It might be hard to tell them but it will help you a lot to get everything out of your mind and for you to not worry and stress so much. Friends are there for you when you need support just as you would be there for them if they needed help. Talk to your friends about this and you will feel a million times better. My parents recently went through a divorce (I know, completely different situation) and talking with my friends helped me out so much and made me so much more calm and less depressed. Good luck!

Answer 7

I'm so sorry! I know someone who had a dad with brain diease. he just died. that's really sad. Well, you know that he has a great chance at dying. and you just have to live with that fact. you should tell your friends, because when he passess on, they'll find out. If they are your real friends, then they'll be there for you and help you. Don't be afraid to talk about things like this. You should even talk with a school counselor (if you are at school). Or a therapist. Your friends will always be there for you and help you. Maybe talk about it at a sleepover, or when you're all alone.

Answer 8

i'm in precisely an identical situation. before everything, i think of it relies upon on how previous you're. even nevertheless your Mum truly can not give up you from seeing your Dad (till there's a courtroom order), while you're under 18 and residing along with her it must be greater acceptable to circulate away it for a jointly as. there are various thoughts, and memories, and hidden agendas while long-absent dad and mom take place immediately. as much as you go with it to take place, while you're nevertheless youthful it must be too lots so which you would be able to regulate and save administration of - somewhat in case you get your Mum off-ingredient. I hadn't considered or spoken to my Dad for 12 years, even nevertheless I knew the place he replaced into and the thank you to touch him. area of the reason replaced into that I knew it could devastate my Mum, and area of the reason replaced into that I wasn't thoroughly confident what i wanted from him. So I waited. We made touch in September final twelve months. He had to seize up yet I instructed him I wasn't waiting and that i saved waiting. i'm waiting now, and only final week I emailed him and prepared to seize up. i'm 32 and a powerful lady, yet did no longer choose to threat being harm by utilising somebody who could desire to have taken greater acceptable care of me a protracted time in the past.

Answer 9

Tell your friends, not because they can help, but because you need to let it out. And yes, they will help in the sense that they'll be there for you when things get worse, and you'll be able to rant to them and (if they're true friends) they won't mind and they'll just listen. That's the greatest help in the world.
I'm so sorry for you. A close friend of mine went through the same thing (brain disease in father), and we (his friends) were all there for him.
Good luck, and again, I'm so sorry.

Answer 10

I think your friends should be aware that your dad is so ill, and that's the reason he talks and thinks strangely. They should treat him like any other person, and that's with kindness and respect. I do hope he's getting the proper medical care for his condition, even if it's incurable. I'm so sorry to hear that, and I will keep him in my thoughts and prayers, and your mom and you also. God bless!