so my parents have been divoreced for a long time, now im 12, they are both remarried. at my dads house im the only kid. and over there its not that enjoyable for me, not much to do i cant play on the computed or watch TV and i cant read to much or else i wont be 'spending time' with them, which is very lame. and i dont really have anything over there to do. so i feel kinda helpless but anyways my stepmom doesnt like me much and i feel she doesnt trust me bc she looks up every book i bring over there and tells me i cant read it of which i no my dad would nv to in a million yrs so thats another reason i cant bring any books over there, and she is constantly getting mad at me, and she has a bad temper 24/7, she yelled at my 3 yr old cousin bc he wouldnt eat his piece of pizza she let him have and once at a soccer game bc i wanted to go to my moms house to change real quick and she yelled in front of everyone. ...continued......
2007-12-30 13:16:03 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
and wen they first got married they asked me if id be ok if they had a child and i said no bc the thot scarried me. anyways now shes 6 weeks pregnant and i just found out 2 wks ago, and to me this is devistating but i had to answer yeah its great tons of times, and im just very mad, sad, ugh bc i feel that thisll be THEIR child since its her first and the baby will be treated 10x better than me, they wont want me as much and etc. and theres really no joy in going over there now itll be just the less happier. im thinking i should be happy instead of selfish but i cant help it, and my 13th bday should be less then a month from the arrival so itll be ruined with low tolerance and things. should i tell them how i feel or just deal with it plz help :/
2007-12-30 13:21:23 · update #1
ok to add on from the answers shes 38 and we dont have lots of money to do things the only thing they like is yahtzee and i dont go over there that much to spend time with them, and my dads super social and im pretty shy i dont like meeting new ppl and things and it seems like were always at partys and things
2007-12-30 13:27:45 · update #2
not to stick up for your stepmom, but being a step-parent is a tough job. You're always second to the husband's first family and children. She's probably jealous a bit of this relationship with your mother, or she may just want your dad for herself. You didn't say how old she is. Perhaps she's upset that she cannot have kids of her own.
For being 12, this is tough straddling two families. But you two need to create a new 'relationship'. Maybe develop a hobby , or visit museums together - just the two of you. Do you have your own room? I know this is tough, but don't be so distant.
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Being the child from the other marriage leaves you in a precarious position. Sure the baby will get a lot of attention, but this will be your 1/2 brother or sister. It's not your decision if they should have a child or not, but they will not love you any less. They will love you differently (everyone ooooh's and aaaah's with a new baby). Ask to be involved with the baby and let your dad know not to shut you out.
2007-12-30 13:22:57 · answer #1 · answered by Empress Jan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now that you're a little older, it seems like you should have more say in how you spend your time. If you're that uncomfortable at your dad's, can you ask your dad if you can have day visits with just him? I think you're old enough to stand up for yourself and you need to speak up. I know this isn't a consolation, but I will tell you that many women who marry men with children from a prior marriage resent the children. They feel like the children are a reminder of the first wife and are extra baggage that interferes with the new life they want. This is not your fault, and in my opinion your stepmother is an idiot. There is no reason for her not to have enough love in her heart for everyone, and since she doesn't, like I said, she's an idiot.
2007-12-30 21:24:25 · answer #2 · answered by No Shortage 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your dad to please allow you to have a little more freedom.
Explain that spending time with them is...nice, but you really don't have much fun because you feel that it's more like restriction.
If they don't ease up maybe you could ask a for a friend to come and hang out.
If all else fails, have some vengeful fun.
http://www.ashton-kutcher.net/forum/index.php?showtopic=2812
2007-12-30 22:30:19 · answer #3 · answered by Me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um i think you should tell your dad. if you have a really good relationship with him. and dont take anything from our stepmom take the books you want. and say that you want to have some time alone when they want to spend time with you. im sorry if this doesnt work
2007-12-30 21:40:43 · answer #4 · answered by Mari 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋