Resently a guy asked me out I said yes. My friend also likes him and just addmitted to me that she can't trust me anymore. What can I do to earn my best friends trust again.
2007-12-30 13:12:37 · 20 answers · asked by Emilie R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Did you know she liked him BEFORE you went out with him? If so, that's pretty unfeeling of you to do so. Just give it time for her to regain her trust in you. And just make sure you don't do it again.
2007-12-30 13:17:04 · answer #1 · answered by Greentea4unme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you didn't know that she liked him, then she's being unreasonable and you should tell her so.
If you DID know that she liked him, and you still said yes, I can see why she's not going to trust you. The only way to earn someone's trust after a mistake is to continuously show that you're honest about your words and actions - but the other party must be willing to trust you. Which means, she has to forgive you first.
2007-12-30 13:17:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a bit confused by this. Why does she not trust you? Had you promised not to go out with anyone she's interested in? Did you give her the first right of refusal on anyone who asks you out?
I could understand some feeling of betrayal if you, knowing she was interested in the fella, went and asked him out, but you didn't; you only accepted what he offered.
I would tend to think it would have been more of a betrayal if you'd said, "No, sorry, xxxx is interested in you and I won't stand in her way" -- since that would be disclosing information given you in confidence. Just think, if he'd responded, "Oh, too bad, I hate her" ... just think how mad she'd be then!
It's not the most comfortable situation but I can't see any betrayal on your part. If she expects you to refuse what's offered to you, in order to benefit her, then she should have been clear up front that that's what she expects of you; and then you could choose if you wanted to live like that or not.
2007-12-30 13:20:14 · answer #3 · answered by Katie W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change your behavior and apologize sincerely. She may refuse your attempt to make things right - and for juste reason may have trouble trusting in the future. Sometimes things can't be mended but at least it will be in her hands to make the next move. That's really all that you can do ... and hope for the best
2007-12-30 13:17:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing. You ruined this friendship, and the best thing you can do is stay out of her life and learn from your mistakes. You are going to live alone and die alone if you don't step up to the ethical and moral plate as it were, and straighten yourself out. If you were my "best" friend, I would have wasted no time deleting your existence from my life, and I'm sure she's already done that.
2007-12-30 13:18:51 · answer #5 · answered by No Shortage 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You B**** you know she liked him, That is so mean. How would you feel if you were her. I would hate you. I would never ever earn your trust back ever again=] Easy two points.
2007-12-30 13:19:05 · answer #6 · answered by wowthisisgay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sound to me like you both have a problem. You for trying to steal her guy, her for not understanding your feelings. Sit down and talk it out. Maybe the guy is not right for either of you. If he cheats on your friend, why won't he cheat on you?
2007-12-30 13:17:37 · answer #7 · answered by Tex S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about it.
You showed your true colors to her and she's always going to remember what you did.
So just tell her that you will try to be the best friend in other areas, as best you can. And in time she will see you for the true friend that you really are.
2007-12-30 13:16:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont go out with guys she likes and help her earn your trust back
2007-12-30 13:15:41 · answer #9 · answered by sam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well for one...he asked YOU out..so thats not your fault..who says you can't be happy? what does that have to do w/ trust? i mean if he was interested in your friend he would have asked HER out...just tell her that the guy meant nothing compared to your friendship with her..
2007-12-30 13:16:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋